Have A Happy Life and A Happy Family Part 3

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Hello, and welcome to Keeping It Young podcast,

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conversations about marriage, family, and ministry life.

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I'm Dave.

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And I'm Beth Lee.

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And we are the Youngs.

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We're so glad you've joined us again today

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for our further study in the book of

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Proverbs, talking about happy life, happy family.

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Because we want to say happy life, happy

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wife.

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Yeah, that's right.

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I know.

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But our subject is titled, How to Have

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a Happy Life and a Happy Family.

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There it is.

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And we've been in Proverbs for this entire

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year.

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And as you know, many of you have

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been with us the whole year.

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It's just a wealth of information.

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I was thinking the other day about how

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that we really should pay close attention to

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Proverbs.

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There's so many debates and discussions about the

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book of Proverbs, but it is written to

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us by the wisest man who ever lived,

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who was filled with God given wisdom.

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And it was also written to us by

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the Holy Spirit to tell us so many

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things.

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It covers so many things.

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You know, this is just kind of something

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we came up with at the last minute,

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almost as we were working through so many

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subjects, so many details, there's just so many

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parts to Proverbs.

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And what we ended up with was, you

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know what, Solomon is talking about how to

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succeed in life.

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When he kept talking about, if you do

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well, God will bless you.

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If you do well, you'll have God's favor.

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If you do well, you will have, your

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son will bring joy to your life and

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gladness to your life.

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And it just dawned on me, Solomon is

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talking about happiness here, about how to, what

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does our constitution say?

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I always get tongue-twied there, tongue, see

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right there, tongue-twied?

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We have the right to pursue life, liberty,

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and happiness.

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We have the right to life and liberty

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and the pursuit of happiness.

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Yeah, see, I misquoted it too.

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You're getting tongue-tied and I'm misquoting.

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But the fact of the matter is, life

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is a right and liberty is a right,

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but happiness is not a right.

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Happiness has to be pursued.

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And it's the pursuit of happiness that our

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forefathers called our right.

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Yes.

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That we do have the right to pursue

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happiness, and Solomon has written an entire 31

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chapters about it.

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And it really is amazing, isn't it?

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Well, and it's not just everything's happy, happy,

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happy, and nothing bad will ever happen to

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you.

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That's not what we're saying.

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What we're saying is all is well.

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All will be well in your family as

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you work on things.

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All will be well in your heart and

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life as you work on things.

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There may be outside circumstances that aren't quite

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so happy, but you can have peace and

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joy and blessings in the midst of that.

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That's a good point because happiness does not

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mean the delirious silliness that we're laughing our

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head off at a reel or an Instagram

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post or whatever.

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It does mean the idea of Deuteronomy chapter

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6 where he says, if you will live

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by my law, raise your sons and sons'

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sons well.

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He says it will be well with you.

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Yes.

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And even in the dark times, things can

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be well.

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And that's the sense in which we're using

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the word happy here because it doesn't mean

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that life is always perfect.

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There's not this guarantee of the sense of,

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you know what, everything's going to be prosperous.

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That's not what Solomon is saying here, but

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Solomon is saying everything can be well in

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your life.

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And we've discovered that in times of darkness,

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times of loss, times of grief, times of

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challenge.

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And when you raise children and when you

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have adult children, there are challenging things that

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happen.

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But we can, in the midst of all

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the challenges of life, political situations, family situations,

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hurts, pains, problems, sicknesses, trials, things can be

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well.

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And that's what we're talking about here.

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Solomon is telling us how to have a

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happy life and a happy family.

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So a couple of weeks ago, we did

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an introduction to this new section that we're

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covering in Proverbs.

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So we had covered immorality and wisdom.

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And was there another thing that we covered?

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We covered a whole lot there because we

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talked for several weeks about immorality and the

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dangers that he's laying out there, what the

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folly he calls it.

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And of course, the main thing he deals

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with there is purity.

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And we can't shy away from that.

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We are living in a very immoral society.

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We are surrounded by pornography.

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We're surrounded by adultery.

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We are just bombarded all the time with

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sexual sin.

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And Solomon addresses it from Chapter 2, Chapter

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4, Chapter 5, Chapter 6, Chapter 7.

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And there is an underlying theme there.

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Immorality is the focus, but there's an underlying

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theme of wisdom versus folly.

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And it is true that all sin will

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destroy you.

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All sin is folly.

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So all of that is true.

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But we've covered a ton there.

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There's been a ton of information.

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Yes, we did.

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But then a couple weeks ago, we did

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the introduction to Proverbs Chapter 10 and following

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where there are just highlights.

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Can we say it that way?

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Yes.

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In each chapter, each chapter deals with so

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much.

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So going verse by verse would probably get

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laborious, but there are some highlights in the

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chapters.

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And so we started with righteousness, how that

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righteousness in your family can help you to

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have a happy life and a happy family.

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And today we're going to talk about the

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word diligence.

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Yes.

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And let me just remind our audience too,

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for me it's not a reminder, it's not

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if I ever share this on the podcast,

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but Matthew Henry speaks of Psalm 119, you

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know, 176 verses.

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And they do seem to have a basic

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theme, but he said, it's best not to

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think of Psalm 119 as this golden chain,

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but of all of this treasure chest of

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golden rings.

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And I think Solomon's writings here in Proverbs

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are that way as well.

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So when we get to Proverbs 10, it's

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almost like he just is throwing nuggets at

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you, just a truth here, a truth there,

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this truth, that truth.

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And sometimes, you know, it goes all over

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the place.

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One chapter can cover 25 different ideas.

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So it's a treasure chest of golden rings,

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and we are trying to pick out some

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of those golden rings to share with you.

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And so if you're going to have a

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happy life and a happy family, you do

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have to pursue righteousness.

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We dealt with that last time, and as

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we're going to talk about today, you do

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have to pursue diligence.

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And the word we use is emphasize.

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In your life and in your family, you

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have to emphasize righteousness and you have to

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emphasize diligence.

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And so let's jump into that, because right

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here in chapter 10, we are dealing with

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verses four and five to get us started,

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and I'll go ahead and read those this

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time.

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Verse four says, So

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he jumps right in here and he ties

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it to both life and the family.

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And don't we live in a culture that

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is not diligent?

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Absolutely.

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So I would say that there are many

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people in this culture that don't even know

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what the word means.

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It may not even be part of their

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vocabulary.

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And even if you were to explain it

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to them, they would say, well, why is

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that important?

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I mean, you know, I can come to

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work and just barely move along and we

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get the job kind of done and it's

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okay.

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But the word of God here, Solomon in

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the word of God, is making it clear

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that diligence is very important.

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So we're going to define it, I think,

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first.

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So we know what exactly it means.

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Yes.

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And even that idea about our culture, we

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had a young man working with me this

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week in Florida and I went to Lowe's,

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our local Lowe's, to pick up some straw

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for some mulching around our house.

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And I ordered, I think it was 15

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bales.

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And so you have to pay for it

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and then you drive around to the truck

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that has it.

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And then there's a worker there that you

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prove to him you've paid for it.

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And then out of the truck, he brings

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over the 15 bales.

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And they're not very heavy.

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But it was amazing how long it took

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him to get us 15 bales.

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And where I was standing, I could watch

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him in the truck, well, it was because

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he was carrying his phone.

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And so once he was standing in the

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truck, staring at his phone while we're standing

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outside waiting to get our job done.

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And I was working with a young man

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and I said to him, I said, see

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that guy right there, if he worked for

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me, I would fire him.

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And I would fire him because he's not

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diligently getting the job done.

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Others were waiting and he was the only

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one working back there.

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But that's not just something that happens in

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places like Lowe's.

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It can easily happen in each of our

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lives and certainly in our families.

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Because we are just a distracted society.

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We feel like we're busier than we've ever

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been.

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Oh, yes.

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And we feel like we have more to

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do than we can handle.

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But what we're doing is we're so busy

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doing things that accomplish absolutely nothing.

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And we're so busy running, running, running that

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we can really overlook the issue of diligence

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in those things that are very important.

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Right.

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And so that's what Solomon is talking about

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here.

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And he starts out by talking about if

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we are slack, we become poor.

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And I know that he's talking somewhat about

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finances there.

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But there's a lot other ways to have

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poverty.

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We can have poverty of soul.

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Right.

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Well, and a poverty of wisdom, a poverty

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of learning, a poverty of education, a poverty

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of even knowing how to do hard work.

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There are so many in our society that

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putting hard work on them or assigning hard

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work to them, like the young man you

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were just talking about who was working at

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Lowe's, if he had a manager who had

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come out and said, hey, you need to

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put away your phone, he would have seen

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that as an imposition on his right to

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have his phone.

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So we really do not live in a

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diligent society.

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And I do know that those of us

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who try to instill diligence to our children,

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and we will talk about this later in

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this episode, but it is a lot of

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hard work to teach your children to be

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diligent about everything, whether it be schoolwork or

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the word of God or hard work or

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whatever it is.

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This is just work to get your children

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to be diligent.

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But we have had the blessing of having

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managers or co-workers or leaders of our

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children come to us and say, your children

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get the job done.

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They see the job.

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They do the job.

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They are diligent about their work.

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And that just brings blessing to our heart,

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but also blessing to our children.

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And so that's why we want to emphasize

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it in our family.

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Yes.

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And just so you know, honey, that guy

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that was at Lowe's, he was actually not

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a young man.

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He was more our age, but you called

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him a young man.

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And that just kind of made me happy.

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Oh, dear.

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And see, now all of the young people

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out there are like, that's right.

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You older people are on your phones just

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as much as we are.

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I am sorry for the classifying.

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I just like the idea that you called

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him a young man when he was probably

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close to my age because I am Dave

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Young.

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Well, yes, that's very true.

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And you are young.

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I just wasn't there.

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I didn't get to see the man.

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Here's verse 16.

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The labor of the righteous tendeth to life.

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The labor of the righteous tendeth to life

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and the fruit of the wicked to sin.

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And that idea of that word labor there

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goes back to the idea of diligence.

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When we have life, if we're going to

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have life, we have to have diligence.

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And so Solomon is talking about that.

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So let's just jump into our notes here

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and get started.

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What does the word diligent mean?

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It's a unique word.

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You want to get us started there?

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Well, it can mean sharp pointed.

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That's probably where we get the idea of

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where we say that young man right there,

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that's a sharp young man.

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That's a sharp young lady.

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It comes right from this word diligent.

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It's a great word.

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It's something that gets the job done.

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It's something that's smart.

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I would say a sharp young man, we

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tend to think of as smart, but we

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also, sharp pointed is something, it's a tool

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that can get the job done.

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If you have a dull tool, it's not

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going to get the job done.

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The word also can mean trench, which we

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have been joking about before we started recording

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because I was like, oh, it means a

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trench.

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It's deep.

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No, not necessarily.

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It means in the sense of digging a

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trench.

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That's a lot of hard work to get

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a trench dug.

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And the point he's making there when he

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uses the word diligence, it's a massive amount

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of difficult work.

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It's time consuming.

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It's physically exhausting.

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I have never met anybody who loves the

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idea, oh my goodness, we've got to dig

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a 50 foot long trench, 18 inches deep.

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Yes.

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And that's just, you know, it's brutal.

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Our kids have done that work.

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Yes.

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And our son one summer dug a ton

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of those for an electrician he was working

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for.

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And that is in the heat of the

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summer and bending over and shoveling out the,

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you know, digging it and breaking up the

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ground.

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That's the idea of the word diligent.

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It has the idea of sharp pointed, the

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idea of a trench, but it also has

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the idea of gold in the sense of

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mining.

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And that just takes us right back, right

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back to the fact that mining is time

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consuming, physically exhausting, a massive amount of work.

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And it also requires much resources in order

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to mine.

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You have to have a lot of resources.

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Right.

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So this word diligent, if you're going to

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have a happy life and a happy family,

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you've got to emphasize the word diligent.

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And so let's, let's think of it like

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this.

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We've defined the word, but the idea of

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this is that gain.

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In other words, getting ahead and succeeding in

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life requires forethought, the idea of diligence because

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he mentions it in relation to harvest.

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When he talks about diligent, he talks about

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you can sleep in the harvest and have

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nothing, or you can work really hard during

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the harvest so you can enjoy the fruits

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of your labor.

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Right.

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And it's really an interesting thought because harvest

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is a very involved process.

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You have to prepare the soil.

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I grew up in a farming family and

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I know you have to locate the field.

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So if you don't own one, you have

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to lease one.

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You have to negotiate how much you will

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pay the owner of the field so you

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can plant.

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And then once you have access to the

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field, you have to prepare the soil and

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prepare the seed.

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And then you have to buy the seed

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and transport it and plant the seed and

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care for the field.

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And then of course, there's the waiting for

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the full growth.

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And during that time, there's even work there

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because sometimes it's spiritual work.

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Lord, we need rain.

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And God, you have to provide the rain

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for us.

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So we're waiting for the full growth.

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And then there comes the time when, all

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right, it's ready to be harvested.

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And the work and effort that goes into

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that is part of this idea of diligence.

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So we are diligent so that we have

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gain, whether that be financial, whether that be

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a product, like you are working or a

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produce that you're working in the field trying

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to raise that harvest.

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It could be diligence brings gain in learning,

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whether that be from education or just your

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personal reading.

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It could be diligence will bring gain spiritually

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as you work to become closer to the

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Lord.

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So there are many, many different types of

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gain.

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00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:42,720
We're not just talking about financial gain here.

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But the gain of diligence takes forethought.

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We have that in our notes.

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Yeah.

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And so it might be good for us

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to pause here and you that are listening

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today, just think of it like this.

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Maybe answer this question.

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Would you consider yourself a diligent in your

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finances, diligent in your habits, diligent in your

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spiritual walk with God, diligent in just your

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spiritual growth or just your normal growth?

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Are you advancing?

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Are you investing?

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So are you diligent?

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And then for us who are parents, are

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we diligent in training our children?

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Are we diligent in where we want them

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to go?

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Are we preparing for the harvest that for

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some of you young moms and dads, it'll

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be another 20 years before you see the

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harvest or 15 years.

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Right.

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For some of you, it's three or four

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more years and it's time to see, okay,

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00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:31,220
how did I do?

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How are my adult children going to be?

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So there's a gain here that requires forethought,

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diligence in that area.

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But it also, there's another word we have

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to talk about and that's the word time

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when it comes to diligence.

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And this is a hard one for our

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culture because we want everything fast.

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You know, we want to, if we have

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an issue with the child, we want to

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take care of it.

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All right there, see that's over.

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And a lot of parents, rather than training

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their children, we are so busy and so

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impatient that a lot of the parents of

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our culture, especially of little ones, they just

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simply tend to overpower the child to handle

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a situation.

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All right, we're just going to, we're going

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to force you to do this right now,

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rather than slow down and take the time.

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Like, you know, taking a child that's not

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well-behaved and correcting that child so that

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that child learns self-control and self-denial

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takes a massive amount of diligence.

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And there is not a parent alive who

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wants to put that kind of effort into

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it.

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Right.

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We just don't.

518
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It takes so much time.

519
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You moms and dads out there that are

520
00:16:27,780 --> 00:16:29,900
raising little ones, if you've got a child

521
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that is going through a time where they

522
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are, you know, they're defiant, no, and they're,

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no is their favorite word.

524
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And they are defiant and you're scared to

525
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take them anywhere because they're so defiant.

526
00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:43,800
Well, it's going to take diligence to overcome

527
00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:44,220
that.

528
00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:44,600
Yes.

529
00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:46,620
How many, how many days did it take

530
00:16:46,620 --> 00:16:48,920
us to train some of our kiddos and,

531
00:16:49,020 --> 00:16:49,960
you know, okay, can't do that.

532
00:16:50,020 --> 00:16:50,900
You can't do that.

533
00:16:50,940 --> 00:16:53,500
And sometimes it takes years to train fully.

534
00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:54,040
Yes.

535
00:16:54,220 --> 00:16:55,860
And so there's a time factor involved here.

536
00:16:55,900 --> 00:16:56,980
There is a time factor.

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00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:58,680
And so you're in it for the long

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00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:02,460
haul so that you are diligent going about

539
00:17:02,460 --> 00:17:05,200
the process of what is important to you

540
00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:07,220
and your spouse.

541
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And so that goes back to forethought, sitting

542
00:17:09,700 --> 00:17:11,640
down and saying, okay, these are the things

543
00:17:11,640 --> 00:17:12,880
that are important to us.

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00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:15,760
We are going to diligently work on these

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things.

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These are what we're going to diligently work

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on personally and then in our family.

548
00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:24,300
And then realizing you're in it for the

549
00:17:24,300 --> 00:17:24,800
long haul.

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00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:27,200
You're just going to be digging that trench

551
00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:30,920
for years and years and years.

552
00:17:31,140 --> 00:17:35,800
And it, it doesn't really stop as parents.

553
00:17:36,020 --> 00:17:38,680
There are always new trenches to be dug.

554
00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:39,960
Can we say it that way?

555
00:17:40,020 --> 00:17:41,440
There's always diligence.

556
00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:43,840
But there is always reward.

557
00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:46,880
And even in the little years, you will

558
00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:49,240
see the reward of your diligent effort.

559
00:17:49,240 --> 00:17:52,180
As your child learns all kinds of things

560
00:17:52,180 --> 00:17:54,760
from the practical to the spiritual, you will

561
00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:57,320
be able to see those little steps in

562
00:17:57,320 --> 00:17:58,420
the process of time.

563
00:17:58,680 --> 00:18:00,660
So it's very, very worth it.

564
00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:01,660
And don't you think that one of the

565
00:18:01,660 --> 00:18:05,760
way parents, younger parents can, can evaluate is

566
00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:08,260
evaluate based on the happiness of their child.

567
00:18:08,620 --> 00:18:10,640
An unhappy child is a child that needs

568
00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:10,940
work.

569
00:18:10,940 --> 00:18:11,500
Yes.

570
00:18:11,540 --> 00:18:14,860
And I don't understand why our society cannot

571
00:18:14,860 --> 00:18:18,040
see this because they see as making their

572
00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:21,520
child unhappy for that small period of time

573
00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:23,100
when they are correcting them.

574
00:18:23,300 --> 00:18:24,880
They see that as, oh, they don't like

575
00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:25,140
that.

576
00:18:25,500 --> 00:18:26,960
So I'm not going to do that.

577
00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:29,920
Can I say maybe the gentle parenting method,

578
00:18:30,100 --> 00:18:33,380
which is very popular right now, even among

579
00:18:33,380 --> 00:18:35,660
Christian people who have the word of God,

580
00:18:35,740 --> 00:18:37,260
who know what the word of God says

581
00:18:37,260 --> 00:18:40,920
about training our children, discipling our children, disciplining

582
00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:41,440
our children.

583
00:18:41,900 --> 00:18:44,640
But this gentle parenting method is almost that

584
00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:47,740
the opposite of, oh my goodness, my child

585
00:18:47,740 --> 00:18:49,500
doesn't like it when I correct them.

586
00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:50,860
And so I'm not going to do that.

587
00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:52,940
Well, that's very true.

588
00:18:53,280 --> 00:18:54,380
They don't like it.

589
00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:55,880
None of us like it.

590
00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:59,100
When the Lord has to chastise us, we

591
00:18:59,100 --> 00:19:00,780
don't like that time either.

592
00:19:00,780 --> 00:19:05,160
But that fellowship that comes after the chastening,

593
00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:08,720
the relationship that is stronger because the child

594
00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:11,140
is learning and growing in the way they

595
00:19:11,140 --> 00:19:11,880
should go.

596
00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:13,660
And they are just happier.

597
00:19:13,860 --> 00:19:16,520
You do have a happier child.

598
00:19:16,780 --> 00:19:18,140
It is amazing to me.

599
00:19:18,580 --> 00:19:20,760
We're around all kinds of children and I

600
00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:22,440
never want any of our listeners to be

601
00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:24,300
like, oh, please don't ever be around my

602
00:19:24,300 --> 00:19:24,780
children.

603
00:19:25,420 --> 00:19:27,460
Because we know that children are all a

604
00:19:27,460 --> 00:19:28,340
work in process.

605
00:19:28,340 --> 00:19:31,320
No matter which parenting method you decide to

606
00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:31,800
use.

607
00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:34,380
But we are around all kinds of children

608
00:19:34,380 --> 00:19:37,040
and the ones who are happy.

609
00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:40,080
They're content to play well.

610
00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:41,960
They're content to share.

611
00:19:42,540 --> 00:19:45,260
They're content to sit in their high chair

612
00:19:45,260 --> 00:19:46,180
and eat their meal.

613
00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:48,480
They're content to go to bed when it's

614
00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:49,240
time to go to bed.

615
00:19:49,620 --> 00:19:52,260
Those are the children whose parents are in

616
00:19:52,260 --> 00:19:56,580
the process of diligently training them to do

617
00:19:56,580 --> 00:19:56,920
so.

618
00:19:56,920 --> 00:20:00,360
The children who are upset about everything.

619
00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:01,780
I don't want to share.

620
00:20:01,980 --> 00:20:03,620
I don't want to go to bed.

621
00:20:03,780 --> 00:20:05,320
I do not want to sit in my

622
00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:06,220
high chair and eat.

623
00:20:06,420 --> 00:20:08,820
Those are the children whose parents are not

624
00:20:08,820 --> 00:20:11,040
about the business of diligently training them.

625
00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:11,400
That is so true.

626
00:20:11,820 --> 00:20:13,320
And you young parents, remember this, the more

627
00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,120
diligent you are when your children are younger,

628
00:20:15,220 --> 00:20:17,300
the more satisfying and enjoyable are the teen

629
00:20:17,300 --> 00:20:17,800
years.

630
00:20:17,860 --> 00:20:19,340
And you that are dealing with teenagers, it

631
00:20:19,340 --> 00:20:21,120
doesn't mean you just, you know, everything's gonna

632
00:20:21,120 --> 00:20:21,540
be perfect.

633
00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:24,380
Teens are a work in progress as well.

634
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:24,880
Absolutely.

635
00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:27,040
And the key there is diligent.

636
00:20:27,220 --> 00:20:28,840
You have to be diligent in those teen

637
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:29,120
years.

638
00:20:29,900 --> 00:20:31,220
And so this is an important area.

639
00:20:31,460 --> 00:20:34,380
Just some areas that definitely require diligence.

640
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:38,100
Beth and I would mention spirituality requires diligence

641
00:20:38,100 --> 00:20:39,340
to know God and his word.

642
00:20:39,580 --> 00:20:41,140
We have to be diligent about that.

643
00:20:41,220 --> 00:20:42,340
To love God and his word.

644
00:20:42,500 --> 00:20:43,320
To learn to fear God.

645
00:20:43,460 --> 00:20:45,100
To be faithful to church.

646
00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:46,340
To walk with God.

647
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:49,720
To give spiritually and financially of our talents

648
00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:50,580
and our finances.

649
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,220
Spiritual growth requires diligence.

650
00:20:53,220 --> 00:20:54,960
And moms and dads, if you're gonna be

651
00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:56,980
faithful to church and raise your family so

652
00:20:56,980 --> 00:20:59,860
that they know God and love God, family

653
00:20:59,860 --> 00:21:01,620
devotions require a ton of diligence.

654
00:21:01,940 --> 00:21:02,140
Yes.

655
00:21:02,380 --> 00:21:05,160
And teaching your kids in real time as

656
00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:07,080
issues come up and things are said and

657
00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:09,160
movies are watched and reels are, you know,

658
00:21:09,180 --> 00:21:09,560
observed.

659
00:21:10,100 --> 00:21:11,840
There's a ton of opportunities to be diligent.

660
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:12,940
To say, hold on a minute.

661
00:21:13,100 --> 00:21:13,780
Now that's funny.

662
00:21:13,860 --> 00:21:16,900
But the Bible says, and to continually tell

663
00:21:16,900 --> 00:21:18,220
our kids where it's not an option.

664
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:20,360
There's nothing that comes between us and we're

665
00:21:20,360 --> 00:21:21,340
going to worship God.

666
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:21,720
Right.

667
00:21:21,900 --> 00:21:22,820
Church is our priority.

668
00:21:22,820 --> 00:21:23,980
We have to be in church.

669
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:24,760
We have to serve God.

670
00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:25,940
That takes diligence.

671
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:27,720
Well, and I would say even to you

672
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:30,940
young parents, especially you young mamas, I know

673
00:21:30,940 --> 00:21:33,000
there is always one more thing to do.

674
00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:35,360
There's always a hundred more things to do

675
00:21:35,360 --> 00:21:36,520
when you are a young mom.

676
00:21:36,980 --> 00:21:39,580
And so it can be so easy to

677
00:21:39,580 --> 00:21:41,540
sit and think, I just do not have

678
00:21:41,540 --> 00:21:43,460
time in this season of life to get

679
00:21:43,460 --> 00:21:44,380
into the word of God.

680
00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:47,560
But can I just say to you, sweet

681
00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:50,940
friends, you need to be diligent about that

682
00:21:50,940 --> 00:21:51,260
time.

683
00:21:51,260 --> 00:21:53,680
Even if it's 10 minutes during the baby's

684
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:57,100
nap time, just sitting down and getting into

685
00:21:57,100 --> 00:22:00,480
the word of God and letting it become

686
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:01,760
a part of your life.

687
00:22:02,140 --> 00:22:05,320
And then that habit of, this is just

688
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:05,820
what I do.

689
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:07,080
I'm in the word of God.

690
00:22:07,140 --> 00:22:10,840
And you are walking with God diligently on

691
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:11,240
your own.

692
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:12,980
Because it's a lot easier to train your

693
00:22:12,980 --> 00:22:15,020
children to walk with God if you are

694
00:22:15,020 --> 00:22:16,300
walking with God yourself.

695
00:22:16,300 --> 00:22:16,540
Yes.

696
00:22:16,740 --> 00:22:18,380
And I would suggest to all of us,

697
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:22,440
consider deleting things if you need to.

698
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,100
If you need to take off your Instagram

699
00:22:24,100 --> 00:22:27,060
app, if you need to delete your Facebook

700
00:22:27,060 --> 00:22:28,900
app, if you need to delete your Twitter

701
00:22:28,900 --> 00:22:32,020
account, maybe only have Facebook and Twitter on

702
00:22:32,020 --> 00:22:32,740
your computer.

703
00:22:34,120 --> 00:22:36,000
Just delete it all so that you do

704
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,760
have more time to diligently pursue your spiritual

705
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:38,940
life.

706
00:22:39,900 --> 00:22:41,600
Relationship requires diligence as well.

707
00:22:41,660 --> 00:22:42,140
Absolutely.

708
00:22:42,580 --> 00:22:45,340
And if we're not diligent about, here's our

709
00:22:45,340 --> 00:22:45,540
goal.

710
00:22:45,540 --> 00:22:46,340
We want to be sweet.

711
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:47,360
We want to be kind.

712
00:22:47,660 --> 00:22:49,560
We want to have children whose hearts are

713
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:50,920
grateful.

714
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:51,860
They're thankful.

715
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:53,940
We want politeness.

716
00:22:55,020 --> 00:22:57,640
Spirituality requires diligence, but so does good relationship

717
00:22:57,640 --> 00:22:58,160
skills.

718
00:22:58,560 --> 00:22:58,800
Yes.

719
00:22:58,860 --> 00:23:01,100
And knowing how to do that.

720
00:23:01,580 --> 00:23:03,440
Just because you have a two-year-old

721
00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:05,240
who doesn't like to be nice to other

722
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,780
people, do not swallow the lie that, oh,

723
00:23:07,820 --> 00:23:09,820
well, they just don't understand how to do

724
00:23:09,820 --> 00:23:10,220
that yet.

725
00:23:10,260 --> 00:23:12,500
If there's something that you want your two

726
00:23:12,500 --> 00:23:13,820
-year-old to be able to do when

727
00:23:13,820 --> 00:23:16,320
they're four or five, then you need to

728
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,560
be training them right now to do that.

729
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,620
You cannot wait and be diligent when they're

730
00:23:21,620 --> 00:23:22,200
four or five.

731
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:23,600
Now, I'm not saying that if you've missed

732
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:25,280
that, you can't go back and try to

733
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:26,760
correct it when they're four or five, but

734
00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:28,000
why not start now?

735
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:29,960
If you want your two-year-old to

736
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,980
be a sweet preschooler, then work on diligently

737
00:23:33,980 --> 00:23:37,720
right now, them being sweet right now instead

738
00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:38,160
of waiting.

739
00:23:38,500 --> 00:23:38,600
Yes.

740
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:39,260
Yes, yes, yes.

741
00:23:39,580 --> 00:23:41,380
And we also have to just remember, diligence

742
00:23:41,380 --> 00:23:42,620
covers all kinds of areas.

743
00:23:42,620 --> 00:23:44,640
If our kids are going to learn discipline,

744
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,020
if they're going to learn skills, that takes

745
00:23:47,020 --> 00:23:50,500
diligence, teaching them to cook, to clean, to

746
00:23:50,500 --> 00:23:52,560
handle finances.

747
00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,460
Diligence is a word we have to emphasize

748
00:23:55,460 --> 00:23:57,260
if we're going to have a happy life

749
00:23:57,260 --> 00:23:58,860
and a happy family.

750
00:23:59,340 --> 00:24:00,580
And moms and dads, you have to model

751
00:24:00,580 --> 00:24:00,820
it.

752
00:24:01,100 --> 00:24:03,900
We cannot expect our children to be kind

753
00:24:03,900 --> 00:24:06,500
and thoughtful and loving and grateful and giving

754
00:24:06,500 --> 00:24:09,200
if we are always complaining and harassing and

755
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,560
fussing at each other and griping and sarcastic

756
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,040
and raising our voice.

757
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,220
If we're not diligent about our own lives,

758
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,680
our children will not be diligent about theirs.

759
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:20,280
Yes.

760
00:24:20,340 --> 00:24:20,500
Right?

761
00:24:20,660 --> 00:24:20,880
Yes.

762
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:21,740
So we have to work at that.

763
00:24:21,900 --> 00:24:24,220
I was thinking about this just a few

764
00:24:24,220 --> 00:24:24,880
moments ago.

765
00:24:25,020 --> 00:24:27,120
I listened to a podcast, I think it

766
00:24:27,120 --> 00:24:28,880
was last week or maybe the week before,

767
00:24:29,020 --> 00:24:31,600
and they were talking about arranging our priorities

768
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:34,220
as Christian women, what they should be.

769
00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:36,220
Of course, it was the Lord first and

770
00:24:36,220 --> 00:24:39,180
then our families and then work from there.

771
00:24:39,180 --> 00:24:40,740
And one of the girls on the podcast

772
00:24:40,740 --> 00:24:43,220
said that the Lord has been working in

773
00:24:43,220 --> 00:24:45,460
her heart because she does tend to be

774
00:24:45,460 --> 00:24:46,560
a very diligent person.

775
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:49,020
And I would consider myself more a diligent

776
00:24:49,020 --> 00:24:49,460
person.

777
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:50,760
I like to get the job done.

778
00:24:50,860 --> 00:24:53,580
I don't like to sit and see projects

779
00:24:53,580 --> 00:24:55,300
that need to be done around my house.

780
00:24:55,620 --> 00:24:57,320
I don't rest well that way.

781
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,040
But that's more of a Martha standpoint.

782
00:25:00,260 --> 00:25:02,620
If you're thinking about the real life characters

783
00:25:02,620 --> 00:25:04,600
in the Bible of Mary and Martha, Martha

784
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,580
was the busy, busy one and Mary was

785
00:25:07,580 --> 00:25:07,940
not.

786
00:25:07,940 --> 00:25:09,500
She was able to sit at the feet

787
00:25:09,500 --> 00:25:09,880
of Jesus.

788
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,160
So anyway, I'm listening to this podcast and

789
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:13,500
she said the Lord just may have been

790
00:25:13,500 --> 00:25:16,360
working in her heart that people are more

791
00:25:16,360 --> 00:25:18,340
important than projects.

792
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:22,160
And I was like, oh man, because there

793
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,080
are so many times that I'm just busy,

794
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:25,280
busy about the house.

795
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:26,940
And yes, there are things that need to

796
00:25:26,940 --> 00:25:29,900
be done, but I'm just thinking I just

797
00:25:29,900 --> 00:25:31,500
need to jump in and get this done.

798
00:25:31,540 --> 00:25:33,160
And I can talk to people while I

799
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:33,700
do this.

800
00:25:33,700 --> 00:25:35,800
And there are things that you can do

801
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:38,480
while you are being relational with your family.

802
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:40,300
You can fold laundry together as a family.

803
00:25:40,460 --> 00:25:42,020
You can do dishes, all of that thing.

804
00:25:42,100 --> 00:25:44,400
We have talked about this before, but the

805
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:46,500
Lord just said, you know what?

806
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:49,220
You need to remember people are more important

807
00:25:49,220 --> 00:25:50,060
than projects.

808
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,040
Probably this is not the time if you

809
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,100
have guests in your house to clean out

810
00:25:54,100 --> 00:25:55,320
that closet or whatever.

811
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,020
So those are some of the things that

812
00:25:58,020 --> 00:25:59,300
we can be diligent about.

813
00:25:59,340 --> 00:26:01,740
Just remembering people over projects.

814
00:26:01,740 --> 00:26:02,200
Absolutely.

815
00:26:02,660 --> 00:26:03,820
Well, we're going to run out of time

816
00:26:03,820 --> 00:26:04,020
here.

817
00:26:04,180 --> 00:26:06,060
So just to remind you of how important

818
00:26:06,060 --> 00:26:06,820
diligence is.

819
00:26:07,060 --> 00:26:10,000
Proverbs 4.23, keep your heart with all

820
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:10,760
diligence.

821
00:26:11,620 --> 00:26:17,660
Proverbs 11.27 says, he that diligently seeketh

822
00:26:17,660 --> 00:26:20,040
good procureth favor.

823
00:26:20,780 --> 00:26:23,760
Proverbs 12.24 says, the hand of the

824
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:26,260
diligent shall bear rule.

825
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,740
Proverbs 12.27, the substance of a diligent

826
00:26:29,740 --> 00:26:31,440
man is precious.

827
00:26:31,740 --> 00:26:34,080
I like Proverbs 13.4, the soul of

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the diligent shall be made fat.

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Yes.

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I like that.

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And then 21.5, the thoughts of the

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diligent tend to plenteousness.

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And I couldn't help but think about Deuteronomy

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6, where he even says there that God's

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word should be in our hearts and we

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should teach it diligently unto our children.

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This is a vital word.

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And if you're going to have a happy

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life and a happy family, then you have

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got to emphasize the word diligent.

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Practically speaking, before we go today, just one

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more time, how do we teach the importance

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of diligence to our children?

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Just offer us just a few words of

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advice.

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I would say, first of all, model it.

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If you are constantly sitting around scrolling Facebook,

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Instagram, whatever, but you're expecting your children to

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get chores done around the house, that's not

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going to happen well.

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So model it.

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But also remember that your children just need

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encouragement along the way.

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I just even a couple weeks ago had

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to say to our almost grown children that

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are living in our house, hey, remember, if

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you see a job that needs to be

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done around the house, just go ahead and

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do it.

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Don't wait for mom or dad to remind

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you.

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And so just encouragement along the way.

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Hey, see a job, do a job.

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And also, we have lots of episodes on

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how to train your children to work.

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Yes.

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Looking back at our children, is there anything

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that you think we especially succeeded in that's

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helped our children to be successful as adults

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when it comes to the word diligence?

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Probably just the fact that we did emphasize,

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hey, there are a few things that we

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will do before we go have fun.

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It's not that we never have fun.

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It's not that we work, work, work, work.

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But OK, these are a few chores that

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we need to get done before we go

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and play.

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Of course, we are a homeschool family.

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So homeschool needed to be done before we

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were completely done for the day and could

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go play.

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And I think that just helped our children

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to develop a sense of, you know what,

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there's just a few things in life you

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got to get done.

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And then you can go scroll Instagram.

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OK, we're out of time.

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Thank you, sweetheart.

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And thank you so much for joining us

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today and listening and joining us again next

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week because we're going to continue this study

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of how do you have a happy family?

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How do you have a happy life?

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And what do you emphasize in order to

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get there?

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And we're really enjoying this study.

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Hope you are as well.

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Remember this week to serve the Lord with

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