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Hello, and welcome to Keeping It Young podcast,
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conversations about marriage, family, and ministry life.
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I'm Dave.
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And I'm Bethlehem.
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And we are the Youngs.
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We're so glad you've joined us today as
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we continue in the book of Proverbs.
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Hope you're enjoying our study.
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Thank you for joining us again today, and
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I hope you're having a wonderful summer.
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We are right in the middle of our
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summer.
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The summers are always so full for us,
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and just on the road, going and going
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and going and covering so many miles and
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meeting so many people.
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Just appreciate your prayers.
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Even for our summer of ministry, things are
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just super busy.
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And hope in the midst of this summer
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that you are learning a lot from God's
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word, that you're doing well, that you're growing
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in the Lord and maturing as well.
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You know, you can always reach out to
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Bethlehem and me.
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We're always available to serve you, to answer
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your questions, and we're always honored when we
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hear from people.
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And so if we can do something for
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you or help you in some way.
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If you're enjoying our series, I hope you'll
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recommend it maybe to a connection class or
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a Sunday school class, or maybe to someone
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you know that is having difficulties or needing
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some wisdom or some directions or instruction.
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Maybe leave us a rating.
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We would certainly be thankful for all of
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that.
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God's been good to us, hasn't he?
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Absolutely.
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And we have enjoyed our podcasting and are
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so thankful for how God has blessed us
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here on the podcast.
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And we are enjoying Proverbs.
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We are.
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And learning so much from it.
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I had no idea how many things we
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could find in Proverbs.
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Well, it does go to show that the
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old practice of reading through the Proverbs with
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your family over and over and over again,
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there was wisdom in that because there is
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so much to be learned from the book
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of Proverbs.
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And I feel like we're just scratching the
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surface here with these highlights from these different
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chapters, but such good truth available even in
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those highlights.
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Yes, and I know several people have reached
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out to me and said, Hey, what commentaries
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are you using?
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And so forth.
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And my first go-to in the book
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of Proverbs is the old writer, Matthew Henry.
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And I just really love his practical simplicity
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and straightforwardness about how he looks at them.
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Then I go to a Bible app that
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has the definition of words, and I look
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up Hebrew words and examine those and just
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see the different, the shades of meaning, the
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nuances of meaning that you find in the
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Hebrew dictionary is just amazing.
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And having Bible apps today really help us
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to do that.
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So it's just a real blessing.
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So I don't know if there's a right
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or wrong out there.
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There's a ton of commentaries.
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We just have really enjoyed Matthew Henry's and
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use our Bible dictionary and things of that
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sort.
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So hope you're looking up some of these
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yourself and studying them.
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And I told you last week, if you
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were listening last week, that we were ready
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to jump into, we've got to emphasize our
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words, but I was wrong.
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That's actually next week.
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He skipped over chapter 11, and we are
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going to be emphasizing this week from Proverbs
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11, teaching our children integrity.
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We have to emphasize integrity if we're going
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to have a happy family and a happy
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life.
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So righteousness so far, diligence so far, and
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now we're here.
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God's blessings.
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God's blessings.
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And now here we are at integrity.
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Integrity is so important.
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Oh my goodness, it is.
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You want to be able to take someone
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at their word.
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You want to know that someone's going to
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be honest with you.
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You want to know someone's going to get
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the job done if you ask them to
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do it, if you're paying them to do
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it.
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Isn't it frustrating that there is a lack
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of integrity in our world today, in our
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culture?
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And you can't always just count on it.
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You can't just say, oh yeah, this will
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get done because sometimes it doesn't.
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And what a blessing it is to deal
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with people who have integrity.
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And you will know it.
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Oh yes.
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Absolutely.
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And it's so important in so many aspects
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of our life.
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Integrity is essential in your marriage.
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Integrity is essential in your children.
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It's essential for your future and work relationships.
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Integrity is just an essential element.
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So here's what Proverbs 11 says, A false
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balance is abomination to the Lord, but a
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just weight is his delight.
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When pride cometh, then cometh shame, but with
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the lowly is wisdom.
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The integrity of the upright shall guide them,
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but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them.
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Riches profit not in the day of wrath,
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but righteousness delivereth from death.
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The righteousness of the perfect shall direct his
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way, but the wicked shall fall by his
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own wickedness.
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Now he's talking here about integrity, dependability, trustworthiness,
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honesty, and all of those factors that come
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together.
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And the Cambridge Online Dictionary, when you talk
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about integrity, one of the things they say
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is it's the quality of being honest and
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having strong moral principles that one refuses to
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change.
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I liked that definition best of all the
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ones I found.
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And so I want to read that again.
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It's the quality of being honest.
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It's the quality of having strong moral principles
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that one refuses to change.
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And I sat and I thought, okay, who
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in the Bible best illustrates that?
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I came up with two right away.
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Joseph illustrates that because he was a slave
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in Potiphar's house in Egypt.
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His brothers had sold him into slavery.
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And yet, even though he had been done
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wrong, even though he didn't like where he
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was, even though this is not how he
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expected things to turn out, he could have
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absolutely thrown everything he believed away, all righteousness,
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all integrity, and just lived it up as
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a slave boy in that land with Potiphar's
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wife.
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He was favored already, and yet he refused
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to back down on his moral principles.
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That young man had phenomenal integrity.
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And as far as we can tell, it
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was late teens, early 20s.
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Daniel was the same way.
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Daniel's entire life lays out for us a
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picture of integrity.
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And he refused, absolutely, absolutely refused to do
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wrong.
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And then he got his three friends to
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join him.
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We know him as Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.
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And then it shows up again in chapter
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three, because his three friends would not bow
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to the pagan idol that Nebuchadnezzar had made
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of himself and demanded they bow down to.
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And again in Daniel six, when Daniel, as
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an older man now, prayed, even though praying
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likely meant he would be thrown in the
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lion's den and die.
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That is all a picture of integrity.
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What is integrity?
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It is an absolute honesty and a moral
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uprightness that we refuse to change.
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And in Joseph and Daniel's examples, it's almost
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this fortitude to do right, no matter how
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small the issue seems to be.
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Especially we can see in Daniel's life, the
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first thing, the first matter of integrity that
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we come up against his character to say,
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you know what, our law has said we
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should not eat that food.
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And so would it be okay if we
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just eat this food over here, this produce,
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these fruits and vegetables and all of the
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things that mean pulse in the King James
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version of the Bible.
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What an amazing example of character and integrity
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there, because that seems like something that would
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not even matter.
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Here they are captives and they're being commanded
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to eat this food.
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You would think, well, probably most of those
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Hebrew captives said, well, I mean, what am
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I supposed to do?
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I am a prisoner.
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I have to eat whatever they give me
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and okay, it's just food.
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But Daniel and his friends said, no, we
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absolutely cannot.
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And don't you know that that just built
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more character and integrity into their being.
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So their foundation was just, okay, I'm going
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to do right no matter how small the
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issue may be.
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Integrity is taught.
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They obviously learned that somewhere and it is
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also caught.
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We see it when we observe and then
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integrity gets bigger.
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The more we live it, the stronger it
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gets.
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And so it becomes stronger.
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Proverbs begins here, this idea of a false
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balance being an abomination to the Lord, but
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a just weight being his delight.
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And now what we find out as we
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studied that is this is an old command.
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And it was an old command that actually
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was written by Moses, but reiterated in the
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book of Proverbs by Solomon.
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And you find it in Deuteronomy 25 and
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verses 13, 14 and 15.
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So listen to these verses.
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The Bible says, thou shalt not have in
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thy bag divers weights, a great and a
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small.
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Thou shalt not have in thine house divers
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measures, a great and a small, but thou
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shalt have a perfect and just weight.
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A perfect and just measure shalt thou have,
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that thy days may be lengthened in the
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land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
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There's so much to be said about that.
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Yes.
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First of all, he draws the point there
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that we should be the same in private
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that we are in public and the same
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public that we are in private.
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So if I am one way at home,
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but I go out into the world and
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I'm a dishonest businessman and yet I come
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home and I want things to be well,
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it's not going to work that way.
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And the other side of that is true.
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You know, if you've got to be right
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at home and right in public, you've got
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to be right in public and right at
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home.
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And that's God's idea of integrity.
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Integrity is when I'm the same in public
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and in private, I'm the same righteous person
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in public and in private, and I'm dependable
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and I'm honest and you can trust me.
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Proverbs 16, 11.
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Let me look that one up here.
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Proverbs 16, 11 has the same idea.
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And Solomon said it like this, adjust weight
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and balance are the Lord's.
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All the weight of the bag are his
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works.
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He reiterates the same idea.
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Let's see here in Proverbs 20 and what
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verse is that?
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Verse 10.
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Proverbs 20 and verse 10 when he says
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divers weights, different weights and divers measures, different,
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you know, and varied measures.
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Both of them are alike.
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Listen to this.
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Abomination to the Lord.
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Integrity is so important to our God that
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when we don't have it, he absolutely hates
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it with the strongest word that you can
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find in the authorized version to describe the
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things God hates the most.
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Wow.
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That's a pretty big deal.
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It is.
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So emphasizing integrity is absolutely essential.
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Right.
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So that what the book of Proverbs is
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literally saying, if you say you're going to
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sell a pound of rice, it better fully
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be a pound of rice.
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It better not be three quarters of a
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pound of rice because integrity matters.
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And in Hosea, Hosea, the minor prophet Hosea,
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in one of his references, he talks about
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a merchant that is not honest, has no
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integrity, and he says, he is a merchant.
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The balances of deceit are in his hand.
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He loveth to oppress.
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And so you find it yet again, that
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the idea of integrity is absolutely important, which
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just reminds us, we, all of us, you
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that are listening, all of us, we have
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to teach our children to have integrity.
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And if integrity is honesty, we have to
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teach them to be honest, dependable, always trustworthy.
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And for us, that was a spanking matter
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when our kids were younger.
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Yes.
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Lying was not permitted or even put up
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with in our household.
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For any little thing, our children, we wanted
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them to learn to be honest about everything.
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Don't stretch the truth.
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Don't exaggerate your stories.
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And the great thing about having the five
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children is their siblings would call them out
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on it.
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That is not how that happened.
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No, that didn't happen.
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You did not do that.
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And so they keep themselves accountable, which was
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awesome.
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But as far as, hey, what happened here?
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Did you do this?
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How did this come to be?
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Did you do all of your schoolwork?
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Did you finish the job?
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They had to be honest about that.
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And we wanted our children to learn integrity.
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Yes.
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And Matthew Henry said, he is not an
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honest man that is not devout.
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He is not a godly man that is
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not honest.
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And so this is a matter of our
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faith, of our spirituality.
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Dishonest business dealings are always offensive to God.
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If you're listening and you're a businessman or
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a businesswoman, make sure that as a Christian
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that everything you do is done with the
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utmost integrity.
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And even a person who is not a
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believer but who has integrity is a person
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that can be respected and trusted.
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Integrity brings trust.
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We can trust a person who has integrity.
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And when you build a business on integrity
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and it's based on this is the right
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thing, you make a mistake, but I'm going
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to take care of it because I have
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integrity.
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This is the right thing.
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If it costs me extra money to do
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the right thing because one of my employees
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made a mistake or because we just failed,
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I will go overboard to do the right
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thing.
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That is a matter of character and integrity.
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And it's something we have to live and
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something we have to teach our children if
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we're going to have a happy life and
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a happy family.
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Right?
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Yes.
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I would say even as a consumer, you
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need to have integrity and honesty and all
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of these self checkouts that they have these
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days.
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Of course you are on camera.
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They are watching you as you are scanning
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your things.
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And there have been times though that I
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have missed something in my cart.
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And so I get out to the car
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and I'm unloading all the bags of groceries
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and I'll find something little sitting in the
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bottom of the cart that did not get
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scanned.
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And it could be so easy to be
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like, oh, I'm in a hurry.
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This is just a couple of bucks.
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Walmart will never even miss it.
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All of the billions of dollars they make
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every year from all of the groceries.
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But I just, I cannot do that.
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I try to be a woman of integrity.
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And so I have marched right back in
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and I have said to the welcome person,
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I am so sorry.
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I missed this when I was scanning.
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I need to go back through and scan
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this and pay for this.
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And I even had one of the managers
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look at me in just disbelief and she
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said, no one ever does that.
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I cannot believe you came back in just
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to purchase that.
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And I said, well, I can't do it.
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I can't just leave with this and not
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have integrity.
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So even as a consumer, you need to
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have integrity and honesty and teach that to
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your children.
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What a valuable lesson.
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Absolutely.
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And it makes a world of difference.
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And those kinds of lessons, when our children
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are aware that, that Bethle is willing to
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go back into a store to pay for
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something that costs, you know, 50 cents or
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$3, it says to our children, this is
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a big deal.
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We mean this.
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And it is the truth.
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The Bible is teaching us very clearly here
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that it is an essential part of Christianity.
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Integrity and it's called integrity.
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Integrity may be as something as little as
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I, I take the shopping cart since we're
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talking about Walmart and I put it where
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it's supposed to be so that it's not
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going to, you know, go flying across the
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parking lot and hit a car.
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Right.
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Or take up a parking space that someone
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with a white SUV in Pensacola, Florida may
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want to park in that parking place because
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you didn't put the cart back or I
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should say Pace, Florida.
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I don't go all the way to Pensacola
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just to Walmart.
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Are we testifying?
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Put the carts back people.
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This is getting deeply personal right here.
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Oh my soul.
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Nothing is more pleasing to God than fair
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and honest dealings is what we're learning in
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Proverbs.
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It actually models who God is.
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When we are fair, when we are honest,
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when we have integrity, we are modeling God.
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This is who he is and let that
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be a comfort to you.
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Maybe just as a little bit of a
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side here, a lot of times I get
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questions from folks, you know, dealing with issues
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of life, you know, you know, what about
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my mom?
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My mom passed away, you know, I wasn't
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sure about, you know, this or her salvation
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and those are questions that can plague a
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heart, but can I encourage you?
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The answer to those questions is that our
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God is a God of integrity and the
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Bible says things like, you know, will not
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the judge of all the earth do right?
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When God makes decisions, when God acts in
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relation to mankind, dear friends, you can rest
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assured of the fact that our God is
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a God of integrity.
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He will do right every single time and
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he does right in such a way that
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it's obvious to everybody this is the right
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thing to do and when you do the
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right thing, it's also the best thing to
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do.
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Integrity is not just the right thing, it's
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the best thing to do.
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It makes life palatable, it makes life successful,
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it helps our relationship, it improves our business,
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it brings, if we can go back to
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our recent podcast episode of the Keeping It
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Young, it actually brings God's blessings into our
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life, right?
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So it is honesty, it is honesty, it
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is also humility because integrity is the opposite
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of pride.
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I remember Nebuchadnezzar in the Bible because Nebuchadnezzar,
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he was quite a king, but he was
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judged severely by God for his pride.
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Herod was.
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Those were men who, when they did not,
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God had entrusted them to the throne.
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All power is from God, authority.
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And when they would not honor God and
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they lacked integrity, then they were judged severely
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by Almighty God.
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And you that are leaders, you that are
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political leaders need to hear that.
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God is real and God is judging.
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God will judge lack of integrity.
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It is uprightness.
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The word means correct and right and straight.
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Integrity means I'm gonna do the correct thing,
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I'm gonna do the right thing, the straight
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thing.
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Psalm 25 verse 21 says, let integrity and
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uprightness preserve me for I wait on thee.
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This is an important, important topic.
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It is.
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And we were talking about humility with integrity.
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It takes humility to own up to things,
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to say, you know what, I was wrong
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there.
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Or you know what, I shouldn't have said
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that the way I said that.
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That takes integrity and that takes humility on
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our part.
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So it's a very important thing.
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I was thinking about integrity in the illustration
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of a strong-willed child.
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We have people talk to us all the
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time about, oh my goodness, my child is
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so strong-willed and they just, it takes
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a lot to get them to obey.
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It takes a lot to train them in
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the way they should go.
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But if I can encourage you, when you
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have a child who is strong-willed, and
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can I also just say all of our
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children are strong-willed in some area.
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You might have a child that seems like
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they're not strong-willed at all and they
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just obey and everything, but there will come
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something that your child will dig their heels
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in about.
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So all of our children can be strong
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-willed about something.
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But as you teach your children, all of
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these different things that we teach on the
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podcast and all of the truths of the
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word of God, integrity is such an important
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thing because it teaches them to do the
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right thing every time, to own up to
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the honest thing every time.
549
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One of the things that a mentor of
550
00:19:15,750 --> 00:19:18,170
ours taught us is if you get a
551
00:19:18,170 --> 00:19:20,710
strong-willed child going in the right direction,
552
00:19:21,470 --> 00:19:23,870
that strong will will be to do the
553
00:19:23,870 --> 00:19:24,370
right thing.
554
00:19:24,810 --> 00:19:26,370
It will be to have integrity.
555
00:19:26,630 --> 00:19:28,750
I'm going to do the right thing every
556
00:19:28,750 --> 00:19:29,850
time.
557
00:19:30,510 --> 00:19:32,310
That is such a blessing to see as
558
00:19:32,310 --> 00:19:35,690
we have adult children, as our children grow
559
00:19:35,690 --> 00:19:38,190
up, to see them step into that role
560
00:19:38,190 --> 00:19:40,730
of integrity and especially the ones who are
561
00:19:40,730 --> 00:19:44,570
outwardly more strong-willed, they can be very,
562
00:19:44,770 --> 00:19:47,990
can I say verbal about absolutely not, we
563
00:19:47,990 --> 00:19:49,810
will not do that in this household.
564
00:19:49,990 --> 00:19:51,610
This is the right thing to do and
565
00:19:51,610 --> 00:19:54,030
it just kind of makes us laugh and
566
00:19:54,030 --> 00:19:54,730
amuses us.
567
00:19:54,830 --> 00:19:56,630
But also what a joy to our hearts
568
00:19:56,630 --> 00:19:58,090
that we are going to do the right
569
00:19:58,090 --> 00:20:00,330
thing to teach your children integrity.
570
00:20:00,690 --> 00:20:01,050
Absolutely.
571
00:20:01,430 --> 00:20:02,730
That's so true.
572
00:20:03,150 --> 00:20:04,610
Two more questions we have to answer before
573
00:20:04,610 --> 00:20:05,170
we're done today.
574
00:20:05,610 --> 00:20:06,690
Why does integrity matter?
575
00:20:06,830 --> 00:20:08,470
I guess we've already touched all over it.
576
00:20:08,930 --> 00:20:09,910
Why does integrity matter?
577
00:20:09,910 --> 00:20:11,230
The text I read to you in Proverbs
578
00:20:11,230 --> 00:20:13,850
11 reminds us that integrity guides us.
579
00:20:14,410 --> 00:20:17,710
So when we are guided by integrity, then
580
00:20:17,710 --> 00:20:19,390
things will be well in our life.
581
00:20:19,670 --> 00:20:20,730
It guides us.
582
00:20:21,370 --> 00:20:22,770
The Bible even tells us there that it
583
00:20:22,770 --> 00:20:24,010
makes a difference in death.
584
00:20:24,730 --> 00:20:26,130
And that's interesting.
585
00:20:26,230 --> 00:20:27,550
I think it was Matthew Henry again who
586
00:20:27,550 --> 00:20:29,810
said a good conscience makes the end of
587
00:20:29,810 --> 00:20:31,350
one's life easier.
588
00:20:32,090 --> 00:20:34,210
When I don't have things I have to
589
00:20:34,210 --> 00:20:36,590
make right because I cheated and manipulated and
590
00:20:36,590 --> 00:20:38,450
twisted and scorned.
591
00:20:38,450 --> 00:20:41,230
Just remember that it matters because you reap
592
00:20:41,230 --> 00:20:41,770
what you sow.
593
00:20:42,310 --> 00:20:44,650
If you're going to go through life being
594
00:20:44,650 --> 00:20:47,410
dishonest and lying and failing in areas of
595
00:20:47,410 --> 00:20:51,590
integrity, then people will treat you in ways
596
00:20:51,590 --> 00:20:52,390
without integrity.
597
00:20:52,550 --> 00:20:53,190
You will reap it.
598
00:20:53,330 --> 00:20:55,330
You will have to face the fact that
599
00:20:55,330 --> 00:20:56,110
others...
600
00:20:56,110 --> 00:20:57,830
If you're willing to do people wrong in
601
00:20:57,830 --> 00:21:00,590
business dealings, people will do you wrong in
602
00:21:00,590 --> 00:21:01,150
business dealing.
603
00:21:01,330 --> 00:21:03,290
If you're willing to be shoddy in the
604
00:21:03,290 --> 00:21:05,510
work that your business does, people will be
605
00:21:05,510 --> 00:21:07,290
shoddy in the work that they do for
606
00:21:07,290 --> 00:21:07,530
you.
607
00:21:07,530 --> 00:21:08,970
We reap what we sow.
608
00:21:09,150 --> 00:21:10,530
So integrity matters.
609
00:21:10,770 --> 00:21:12,350
It leads us to righteousness.
610
00:21:12,630 --> 00:21:13,610
It counsels us.
611
00:21:14,030 --> 00:21:15,190
It makes us gracious.
612
00:21:15,470 --> 00:21:16,330
It makes us generous.
613
00:21:16,630 --> 00:21:17,690
It brings life.
614
00:21:17,930 --> 00:21:20,050
It bypasses the judgment of God.
615
00:21:20,290 --> 00:21:21,570
And so integrity is important.
616
00:21:21,930 --> 00:21:23,730
I would say that it matters because it's
617
00:21:23,730 --> 00:21:26,610
frustrating to deal with people who don't have
618
00:21:26,610 --> 00:21:27,090
integrity.
619
00:21:27,730 --> 00:21:30,150
So please people, raise your little ones to
620
00:21:30,150 --> 00:21:30,890
have integrity.
621
00:21:32,390 --> 00:21:34,230
Nobody wants that kind of frustration.
622
00:21:34,470 --> 00:21:35,290
So how do you get it?
623
00:21:35,950 --> 00:21:37,150
How do you get integrity?
624
00:21:37,150 --> 00:21:39,250
There's three answers we'll give you here as
625
00:21:39,250 --> 00:21:40,170
we wind up today.
626
00:21:40,270 --> 00:21:41,950
And the first one is you train it.
627
00:21:42,190 --> 00:21:44,210
You just have to know that.
628
00:21:45,230 --> 00:21:47,110
Proverbs 20 and verse 11.
629
00:21:47,230 --> 00:21:49,710
Let me locate this here and read this
630
00:21:49,710 --> 00:21:51,190
one to you so I get it correct.
631
00:21:51,810 --> 00:21:53,890
Even a child is known by his doings,
632
00:21:54,110 --> 00:21:56,850
whether his work be pure and whether it
633
00:21:56,850 --> 00:21:57,210
be right.
634
00:21:57,390 --> 00:21:58,750
So you can look at a child and
635
00:21:58,750 --> 00:21:58,990
know.
636
00:21:59,450 --> 00:22:01,430
A child either has integrity or they don't.
637
00:22:01,750 --> 00:22:03,910
And if they don't have integrity, it is
638
00:22:03,910 --> 00:22:06,310
the job of the parents to take the
639
00:22:06,310 --> 00:22:09,050
necessary steps in a process of time to
640
00:22:09,050 --> 00:22:10,710
teach the child to live a life of
641
00:22:10,710 --> 00:22:11,110
integrity.
642
00:22:11,230 --> 00:22:11,530
Yes.
643
00:22:11,590 --> 00:22:16,390
Your child will not automatically have character, honesty,
644
00:22:16,990 --> 00:22:19,990
humility, always do the right thing.
645
00:22:20,110 --> 00:22:21,390
They will not do that.
646
00:22:21,530 --> 00:22:23,550
We have gone over and over and over
647
00:22:23,550 --> 00:22:24,690
and over that.
648
00:22:24,690 --> 00:22:26,290
It is in the heart of the child
649
00:22:26,290 --> 00:22:32,190
to sin, to be deceptive, to be manipulative,
650
00:22:32,190 --> 00:22:35,790
to be disobedient, to not follow authority, to
651
00:22:35,790 --> 00:22:37,890
not do the right thing, to not share,
652
00:22:38,210 --> 00:22:41,650
to not be nice to people around them.
653
00:22:42,010 --> 00:22:45,610
And so for your child to end up
654
00:22:45,610 --> 00:22:49,410
to be an adult with integrity, it has
655
00:22:49,410 --> 00:22:51,430
to be trained while they are in the
656
00:22:51,430 --> 00:22:51,690
house.
657
00:22:52,210 --> 00:22:56,090
This can be an ongoing process, even through
658
00:22:56,090 --> 00:22:58,490
their teen years, just to remind them of
659
00:22:58,490 --> 00:23:01,830
their work ethic, to remind them, yes, when
660
00:23:01,830 --> 00:23:03,170
you get out of bed, you need to
661
00:23:03,170 --> 00:23:04,590
make your bed, even though you have to
662
00:23:04,590 --> 00:23:05,890
be at work at six o'clock in
663
00:23:05,890 --> 00:23:07,650
the morning, because that's just integrity.
664
00:23:07,870 --> 00:23:08,870
It's doing the right thing.
665
00:23:09,050 --> 00:23:10,390
Yes, you have to be honest.
666
00:23:10,490 --> 00:23:12,650
You have to tell the truth every time
667
00:23:12,650 --> 00:23:14,810
and just working and working and working on
668
00:23:14,810 --> 00:23:16,550
them until they leave your home.
669
00:23:16,670 --> 00:23:18,450
And then they are a person of integrity
670
00:23:18,450 --> 00:23:19,130
on their own.
671
00:23:19,310 --> 00:23:19,490
Yes.
672
00:23:19,490 --> 00:23:22,130
And either remember that your child either has
673
00:23:22,130 --> 00:23:22,750
it or doesn't.
674
00:23:23,130 --> 00:23:24,150
And so examine your child.
675
00:23:24,250 --> 00:23:25,030
Do they have integrity?
676
00:23:25,250 --> 00:23:26,370
Are they dependable?
677
00:23:26,790 --> 00:23:28,290
Can someone trust them?
678
00:23:28,450 --> 00:23:29,230
Can you trust them?
679
00:23:29,550 --> 00:23:31,050
Or could you say, are you at least
680
00:23:31,050 --> 00:23:33,030
in the process of training them in that
681
00:23:33,030 --> 00:23:33,470
direction?
682
00:23:33,690 --> 00:23:35,730
And what happens is when they get it
683
00:23:35,730 --> 00:23:38,570
and mature, integrity then directs their way.
684
00:23:38,750 --> 00:23:41,050
Because in the Proverbs 11 passage, as he's
685
00:23:41,050 --> 00:23:44,150
talking about this issue of integrity, he says
686
00:23:44,150 --> 00:23:47,050
the integrity of the upright shall guide them.
687
00:23:47,050 --> 00:23:49,210
He says then in the fifth verse, the
688
00:23:49,210 --> 00:23:52,110
righteousness of the perfect shall direct his way.
689
00:23:52,190 --> 00:23:53,610
In the word perfect there is the mature.
690
00:23:54,150 --> 00:23:56,890
The righteousness of the mature, the perfect shall
691
00:23:56,890 --> 00:23:59,870
direct his way, but the wicked shall fall
692
00:23:59,870 --> 00:24:01,110
by his own wickedness.
693
00:24:01,470 --> 00:24:03,750
So either we teach our children to have
694
00:24:03,750 --> 00:24:06,290
integrity, to do the right thing, to live
695
00:24:06,290 --> 00:24:09,830
the right way, to honor God by making
696
00:24:09,830 --> 00:24:13,210
right choices, that either guides their life or
697
00:24:13,210 --> 00:24:14,490
wickedness guides their life.
698
00:24:14,770 --> 00:24:16,190
So how do you get integrity?
699
00:24:16,490 --> 00:24:17,750
Well, you got to train it.
700
00:24:18,430 --> 00:24:21,350
And moms and dads, it never ends.
701
00:24:21,490 --> 00:24:23,350
You train all the days of their life.
702
00:24:23,450 --> 00:24:25,610
And at any given instance in your child's
703
00:24:25,610 --> 00:24:27,410
life, maybe your son is 16 and all
704
00:24:27,410 --> 00:24:28,750
of a sudden you see an area where
705
00:24:28,750 --> 00:24:31,530
he's lacking integrity, then you've got to really
706
00:24:31,530 --> 00:24:32,310
start teaching.
707
00:24:32,570 --> 00:24:34,350
You've got to go for a walk.
708
00:24:34,390 --> 00:24:35,470
You've got to sit down and do a
709
00:24:35,470 --> 00:24:36,050
Bible study.
710
00:24:36,190 --> 00:24:37,770
You've got to address the situation.
711
00:24:38,230 --> 00:24:41,070
You've got to place ramifications that have negative
712
00:24:41,070 --> 00:24:43,790
consequences so that your children get the idea.
713
00:24:43,790 --> 00:24:45,330
This is important.
714
00:24:45,550 --> 00:24:46,210
This is big.
715
00:24:46,970 --> 00:24:48,790
And your children should always be looking back
716
00:24:48,790 --> 00:24:50,610
at your life and when they sit to
717
00:24:50,610 --> 00:24:53,410
talk about their upbringing, they should have ample
718
00:24:53,410 --> 00:24:56,590
opportunities to say, oh, remember dad pushed us
719
00:24:56,590 --> 00:24:58,370
about this and mom pushed us about that.
720
00:24:58,470 --> 00:24:59,090
Remember that?
721
00:24:59,510 --> 00:25:01,850
And what you're doing there is you're seeing
722
00:25:01,850 --> 00:25:04,850
the fruit of integrity being trained in the
723
00:25:04,850 --> 00:25:05,490
hearts of your children.
724
00:25:05,710 --> 00:25:06,850
Well, and they should be able to see
725
00:25:06,850 --> 00:25:07,310
it in you.
726
00:25:07,370 --> 00:25:10,510
David and I were just talking through some
727
00:25:10,510 --> 00:25:12,970
things that, some decisions that maybe we will
728
00:25:12,970 --> 00:25:14,310
make in our life soon.
729
00:25:14,550 --> 00:25:17,070
And we were talking about how that we're
730
00:25:17,070 --> 00:25:20,230
not sure what to do about the situation.
731
00:25:20,230 --> 00:25:22,270
And we were just like, well, you know,
732
00:25:22,590 --> 00:25:24,370
we, we need to do the right thing.
733
00:25:24,530 --> 00:25:27,190
And I said, you know, I think if
734
00:25:27,190 --> 00:25:29,090
we do the right thing, if we stand,
735
00:25:29,170 --> 00:25:31,470
and of course that would be integrity, doing
736
00:25:31,470 --> 00:25:33,970
the right thing, doing the honest thing, then
737
00:25:33,970 --> 00:25:35,350
God will direct us.
738
00:25:35,390 --> 00:25:36,670
And the Bible does promise that.
739
00:25:36,750 --> 00:25:39,610
So what, what a comfort that is just,
740
00:25:39,730 --> 00:25:41,390
you may not know what to do, but
741
00:25:41,390 --> 00:25:42,870
you do know what the right thing is
742
00:25:42,870 --> 00:25:44,690
to do well, then just do the right
743
00:25:44,690 --> 00:25:46,630
thing and God will direct you from there.
744
00:25:46,930 --> 00:25:47,210
Absolutely.
745
00:25:47,650 --> 00:25:48,710
And so you train it.
746
00:25:48,870 --> 00:25:50,030
That's how you get integrity.
747
00:25:50,150 --> 00:25:50,650
Two more things.
748
00:25:50,730 --> 00:25:51,430
You pursue it.
749
00:25:51,750 --> 00:25:53,350
That's a lesson for all of us.
750
00:25:53,510 --> 00:25:58,590
We have opportunities galore to pursue integrity, financial
751
00:25:58,590 --> 00:26:03,830
situations and business situations and walking out of
752
00:26:03,830 --> 00:26:05,870
Walmart with something we forgot to pay for
753
00:26:05,870 --> 00:26:08,470
situations, shopping carts.
754
00:26:09,110 --> 00:26:11,230
I was actually in a grocery store somewhere
755
00:26:11,230 --> 00:26:13,250
not long ago, and I watched this couple,
756
00:26:13,530 --> 00:26:16,930
they were walking around in the produce aisle
757
00:26:16,930 --> 00:26:19,370
and every time they walked past the bags
758
00:26:19,370 --> 00:26:20,850
of grapes, they would pick off four or
759
00:26:20,850 --> 00:26:22,190
five of them, carry them around, eating them.
760
00:26:23,270 --> 00:26:25,690
And, and, and here they are, and they
761
00:26:25,690 --> 00:26:28,410
were doing it very openly, very publicly.
762
00:26:28,910 --> 00:26:31,450
And it dawned on me, here's, here's a
763
00:26:31,450 --> 00:26:33,990
couple that has not been trained, they're older,
764
00:26:34,090 --> 00:26:36,470
they were older, but they lack integrity.
765
00:26:36,570 --> 00:26:38,350
That is, that has not been paid for.
766
00:26:38,350 --> 00:26:40,970
They're taking something that is not rightly theirs
767
00:26:40,970 --> 00:26:43,030
because they are lacking in integrity.
768
00:26:43,350 --> 00:26:47,230
We have ample opportunities to pursue integrity.
769
00:26:47,630 --> 00:26:49,250
And then the last one, of course, is
770
00:26:49,250 --> 00:26:49,850
to live it.
771
00:26:50,010 --> 00:26:51,590
It shows up in how we treat people,
772
00:26:52,050 --> 00:26:53,650
shows up in how we run our business.
773
00:26:54,470 --> 00:26:56,930
Integrity is absolutely vital.
774
00:26:57,050 --> 00:26:57,670
Any final thoughts?
775
00:26:57,890 --> 00:26:59,650
I would say even the people in your
776
00:26:59,650 --> 00:27:02,730
home have integrity with your children and you
777
00:27:02,730 --> 00:27:06,170
say, well, we are, our, our business dealings
778
00:27:06,170 --> 00:27:07,470
are very honest.
779
00:27:07,470 --> 00:27:09,510
We are very careful about all of that.
780
00:27:09,570 --> 00:27:11,210
But even when the way you talk to
781
00:27:11,210 --> 00:27:14,210
your children, instead of, oh, soon, mommy, we'll
782
00:27:14,210 --> 00:27:14,990
get to that soon.
783
00:27:14,990 --> 00:27:17,890
And you're still sitting half hour later scrolling
784
00:27:17,890 --> 00:27:21,650
Instagram or, oh yeah, we'll do that sometime.
785
00:27:21,730 --> 00:27:23,290
Your children do remember.
786
00:27:23,650 --> 00:27:26,570
If you promise them something, just be very
787
00:27:26,570 --> 00:27:29,570
careful and make sure that you have integrity
788
00:27:29,570 --> 00:27:30,270
with your children.
789
00:27:30,650 --> 00:27:31,550
They will bring it up.
790
00:27:31,650 --> 00:27:32,770
They will bring it up.
791
00:27:32,770 --> 00:27:35,250
So make sure if you say, oh yeah,
792
00:27:35,350 --> 00:27:36,770
we'll have, we'll go and have ice cream
793
00:27:36,770 --> 00:27:39,070
sometime this week, then take them to have
794
00:27:39,070 --> 00:27:40,330
ice cream sometime this week.
795
00:27:40,390 --> 00:27:43,050
And if things get busy or something happens
796
00:27:43,050 --> 00:27:44,950
and you absolutely can't, you can sit down
797
00:27:44,950 --> 00:27:46,830
and have that conversation of, you know what,
798
00:27:46,910 --> 00:27:48,310
we will do it sometime soon.
799
00:27:48,330 --> 00:27:50,830
I promise it's just, it can't happen this
800
00:27:50,830 --> 00:27:52,770
week, but make sure you have integrity with
801
00:27:52,770 --> 00:27:53,150
your children.
802
00:27:53,310 --> 00:27:55,130
Don't lie to your children about things.
803
00:27:55,250 --> 00:27:57,570
Don't manipulate them to get them to do
804
00:27:57,570 --> 00:27:58,030
things.
805
00:27:58,330 --> 00:27:59,690
Have integrity with them.
806
00:27:59,690 --> 00:28:03,070
Show them that righteousness and integrity and character
807
00:28:03,070 --> 00:28:03,690
matter.
808
00:28:03,910 --> 00:28:04,470
Absolutely.
809
00:28:04,750 --> 00:28:06,110
Well, I hope you're enjoying this study.
810
00:28:06,650 --> 00:28:09,770
Next week, this time I mean it, next
811
00:28:09,770 --> 00:28:12,130
week we're going to talk about our words.
812
00:28:12,390 --> 00:28:15,190
And we have found here in Proverbs so
813
00:28:15,190 --> 00:28:16,490
many other areas as well.
814
00:28:16,630 --> 00:28:18,910
We're going to have a lesson about our
815
00:28:18,910 --> 00:28:19,290
words.
816
00:28:19,410 --> 00:28:21,150
We're going to talk about the value of
817
00:28:21,150 --> 00:28:22,870
influence, anger.
818
00:28:23,110 --> 00:28:24,290
Here's a big one coming up.
819
00:28:24,430 --> 00:28:26,610
Alcohol is in the book of Proverbs.
820
00:28:27,090 --> 00:28:27,630
Counsel.
821
00:28:27,970 --> 00:28:29,430
How do we pursue counsel?
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And how important is counsel?
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We're going to talk about even in Proverbs
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31, biblical femininity and all of that sort
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of stuff.
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These are areas we have to emphasize and
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master if we're going to have a happy
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family and a happy life.
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Yes.
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And that's what Solomon is writing about.
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Thank you for joining us again today.
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Hope you're enjoying this study.
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If we can help you reach out to
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us and let us know.
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I hope you'll serve the Lord with gladness
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this week and thank you so much for
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just being part of the Keeping It Young
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family.
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Have a great day.
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