Life and Family Lessons In Proverbs 5 | Sin Is Always Deceptive

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(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai - Go Unlimited to remove this message) Hello, and welcome to Keeping It Young podcast,

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conversations about marriage, family, and ministry life.

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I'm Dave.

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And I'm Beth Lee.

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And we are the Youngs.

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Welcome back to our series on Proverbs.

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Yes, we're glad you joined us again today.

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Hope you've been enjoying this series, and we've

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certainly enjoyed it.

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There is a ton of material in Proverbs.

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Yes, there is.

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And we just keep learning more and more,

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and going back and looking it over, and

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every time we reread it, find something new.

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Absolutely.

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Well, let's jump in and get started.

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We finished Proverbs chapter four last week.

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And today we want to jump into Proverbs

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five and six and get those two going.

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As you know, we were discussing from Proverbs

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chapter two, the issue of immorality, specifically adultery,

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but we broadened it out for the application

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part.

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But so we've already touched some on Proverbs

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five and six.

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So we don't want to reteach what we

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learned as we were emphasizing Solomon's teaching about

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adultery.

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But there are lessons in both of these

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chapters that are in addition to that, that

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we need to learn.

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We were thinking we may not even revisit

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Proverbs chapter five because so much of it

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covers what we covered in the immorality series.

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But David has come up with some excellent

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notes that will really, I think, be a

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benefit beyond learning about how to avoid immorality

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or avoid adultery or what to do when

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you do get caught in it.

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So here we go.

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All right, let's just jump right in.

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Now we have covered this in some pretty

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good detail, but the one thing we wanted

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to add in Proverbs five, Solomon discusses adultery

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in the entire chapter.

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It's the entire point of the chapter.

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But one of the things I realized as

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I was doing some research is that the

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truths he shares here about adultery actually apply

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to sin in every way.

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And that's why this chapter is worth our

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visiting again.

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Because although your life may never be touched

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by adultery, all of us struggle with the

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issue of sin.

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So- Wait a minute, there are none

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of us who have reached a point of

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not- Well, I'm getting close, but I'm

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not quite there yet.

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Getting...

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That was sarcasm, people.

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We all know that we, as long as

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we are on this earth, we will struggle

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with a sinful nature.

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I thought she was going to say, we

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all know that you struggle with a sin

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nature.

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Oh dear, oh dear.

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I was like, wow.

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No, no, I was lumping all of us

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in together.

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Not just you, babe.

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You are as close to perfect as you

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can be.

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Hey, come on, just keep talking.

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I'll just sit here quietly.

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But maybe we should delve into chapter five.

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All right, let's start by reading verses one

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and two of Proverbs chapter five, and you

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read those for us.

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And as she's reading, think about the idea

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that sin is always deceptive.

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That's the one lesson we're wanting to draw

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attention to today in Proverbs chapter five.

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Sin is always deceptive.

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And so what Solomon begins with here is

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just showing us that we need wisdom, we

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need understanding, we need discretion, we need knowledge,

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because all of us can very easily, any

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of us can very easily be overtaken with

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sin and its deception.

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And so read for us the first two

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verses and let's get started.

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All right, Proverbs five, verse one.

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My son, attend unto my wisdom and bow

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thine ear to my understanding that thou mayest

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regard discretion and that thy lips may keep

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knowledge.

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I love several things about that.

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One is he says, my son, attend to

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my wisdom.

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And moms and dads, I know so many

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of you that listen to us are parents

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or grandparents.

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Catch the point of that.

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Solomon is saying that for us to impact

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our children, this is indirect, of course, it's

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not the point.

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But what I heard him say there is

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it's my wisdom.

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I can't teach my children, we can't teach

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our children wisdom and understanding if we don't

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have it ourselves.

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Right.

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And in the business of our world, in

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a world that is so distracted with so

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much, you know, they say in our culture

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that this is the information age.

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But Bethany and I are convinced that really

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maybe the better way of saying it is

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that we're living in the misinformation age or

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the disinformation age.

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There's so many things that we're being taught

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in our generation that are not wise, that

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are not right, that are not good, that

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are not best, that actually damage our families

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in the long run.

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And sometimes that's so hard for us to

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see because in the culture we live in,

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we are an instantaneous culture.

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We text each other and get the text

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instantly.

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We can respond sometimes just with a touch

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of a screen or the touch of a

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little watch.

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We can send an emoji back very quickly.

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We can voice text back very quickly.

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It's so hard to understand wisdom because wisdom

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has a time factor.

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True.

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It's a lifelong process.

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Yes.

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And you don't learn wisdom overnight.

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That's why we have to read God's word

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every day.

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That's why Bethany and I are strong advocates

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that you need to be in church every

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service.

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If your church has connection classes or Sunday

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school classes, you should be a part of

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them.

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You should have family devotions.

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You should be reading books.

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We are surrounded by, you know what is

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it?

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2,000 years of written literature.

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Yes.

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And there's so many things available.

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But I thought that was very interesting.

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Did you catch that?

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That Solomon says, my son, I'm sharing my

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wisdom with you.

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I did.

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And I was taking a little bit different

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perspective in that as a parent, even though

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you have lived 20, 30, maybe 40 years

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beyond your child, you still are learning.

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You still are, as we pointed out earlier,

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a sinful being.

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You still struggle with your own fleshly desires

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and things that you know the Lord is

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working with you on.

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And sometimes for you to think to yourself,

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I have wisdom to share with my child,

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you're thinking, no, I really don't.

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I'm still a failing creature and I need

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so much help myself.

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But if you are at least striving to

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walk with God and you are in the

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word of God, there is wisdom that you

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can be sharing with your children.

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And you should be.

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You have lived those lives.

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You have been to high school.

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You have been to junior high.

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You have been to college.

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You have been a young adult struggling, first

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married, whatever, first child.

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And there is wisdom that you can be

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sharing.

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So please do.

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Yes, absolutely.

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And wisdom is based on knowledge.

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Yes.

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So there are things we learn.

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Someone teaches it to us or we read

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it or we see it in God's word.

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So wisdom is based on knowledge, but it

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is also based on the experiences we have.

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And so sometimes we share with our children

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that, you know what?

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Here's something I learned because of a failure.

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Here's something I learned because I could have

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done it better or I could have done

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it differently or I should have done it

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better, should have done it differently.

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And really what an impact that that has

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on our new generation, this culture, is they

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don't want fake.

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Even though they are looking at the Instagram

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and all of the reels and all of

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the things that really aren't true, what they

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deep down inside want is truth and they

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want that vulnerability.

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And so as a parent to be able

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to sit down and say, hey, I don't

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want you to make the same mistake I

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did and just coming clean with that.

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We don't have to be these polished gems

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of parents that sin never touches.

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Your children know better.

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They live with you.

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And so it's better just to be open

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and honest and say, hey, let me share

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some wisdom with you because this is what

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I learned because I messed up.

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Absolutely, and I love that idea there.

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You just said these polished gems of parenthood.

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And just keep this up today.

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These are quite the flowery words there.

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I love it, love it, love it.

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And so here's the point we're learning right

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away.

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Solomon is talking to his son about adultery,

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but what a lesson for us to think

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through.

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Sin is always deceptive.

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So we need wisdom.

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We need understanding.

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We need discretion.

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We need knowledge.

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We've mentioned those before in this series.

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Those four seem to go together in Solomon's

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thinking.

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Well, and they're brought up again and again

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and again through the book of Proverbs in

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all different ways.

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And so they need to apply to every

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area of our life.

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Absolutely, so then let's jump into verse three

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here.

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And notice that right away, he draws our

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attention to the lies.

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And this is where sin is a problem

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in our culture because there's so many things

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that aren't true.

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And when we start believing lies, we're in

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trouble.

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So he jumps in here and begins to

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deal with the lies.

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And read for us verse three, okay?

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Verse three begins talking about the strange woman

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and we have applied it in a different

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way, but we are gonna apply it here

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to every sin.

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So verse three says, for the lips of

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a strange woman drop as in honeycomb and

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her mouth is smoother than oil.

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And go ahead because they seem to go

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together.

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Read verses four and five as well.

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But her end is bitter as wormwood, as

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sharp as a two-edged sword.

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Her feet go down to death, her steps

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take hold on hell.

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Yeah, this is powerful words.

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Yes.

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Those are hugely powerful.

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And verse three is just reminding us here

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that the lies that are told by sin,

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the lies that are told and believed are

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enormous.

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Well, it lets us know that they are

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easily believed.

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Easily believed, yes.

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And just entrenched in truth, a lie can

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come our way and you can think, oh,

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well, that sounds good.

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Yeah.

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And the lies sometimes are just so simple,

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like, well, I can handle this.

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I can handle this sin.

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I can do this.

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It's just a little thing.

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I can handle it.

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Right.

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And maybe that's someone saying, well, I'm gonna

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try alcohol.

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I can handle this.

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Right.

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And many times, many, many times that when

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a person thinks, well, I can handle it,

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it's that little beginning, that little beginning.

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And here again, in the same way that

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wisdom takes time, sin is very patient.

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And so sin always starts small.

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Nobody ruins their life overnight.

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Nobody commits adultery overnight.

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Nobody becomes a drunk overnight.

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Nobody becomes, nobody robs banks just out of

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the blue.

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Sin always starts small in our life and

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we are deceived into thinking I can handle

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it.

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Nothing bad will happen to me.

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I will be okay.

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Sin and its pleasures are on my side.

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Beth and I always had to be careful

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about giving illustrations, but frequently in our ministry

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and even because of the podcast here, we

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end up having a part in dealing with

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situations involving adultery or some other sin.

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But I'm amazed at how many times a

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person really does believe the lie.

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I can handle this.

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And even a mom can, a mom can

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get caught up in adultery and she knows

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it's wrong.

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She knows it's wrong.

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And the question then comes up, well, what

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about your children?

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And it's amazing the lies she can, oh,

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they'll be fine.

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They will be fine.

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I mean, everything's gonna just work out perfect

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here, but it doesn't.

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Sin always deceives.

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And the point Solomon is making to his

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son here is that look, the lies that

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are told are enormous and they are easy

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to believe.

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And you better be on guard because when

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sin starts lying to you, you are very

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easily entrapped and you're in great danger at

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that moment.

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Yes, it can lead to bondage very quickly.

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And you don't even know you're in bondage.

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The word of God does tell us that

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sin is pleasurable.

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It is, but it's pleasurable for a season.

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And when you are believing that lie, that,

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hey, I'm for you, this is great.

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Everything's gonna work out and look how much

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fun you're having.

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Look how happy you are.

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You weren't even happy when you were going

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to church all the time or you weren't

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even happy when you were being that godly

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mom and wife in your home.

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You weren't even happy doing that.

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When you're starting to believe that lie, you

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are just becoming, as David said, entrenched in

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the lie, in the sin, and it will

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be so much harder to believe the truth.

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But the Bible does promise also that that

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pleasure of sin is just a season.

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And that season will come to an end

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in what tragedy awaits you and what regret

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and what guilt and what shame.

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And of course, the Bible does teach us

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that God gives grace and he gives forgiveness

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and we can come out of that.

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But how much better to see the lie

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for what it is and just to totally

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bypass that.

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Yeah, and that spills right over into that

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fourth and fifth verse because the point Solomon

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seems to be making here is that it

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is always helpful to carefully consider the ending

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of a matter.

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He's gonna say that in two other Proverbs

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coming up here in coming weeks when he

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says the statement that there is a way

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that seemeth right unto a man, but the

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end thereof are the ways of death.

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In other words, in the beginning, something can

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look so good, can look like, well, this

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is no big deal.

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This is gonna be okay.

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But the way you have to evaluate many

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things in life is to stop, think it

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through, and consider what will the end result

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of this be.

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We can give just a brief illustration here

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to show you how we think about that.

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One of the reasons we apply dating the

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way we do is because of that truth.

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The question comes up, well, when should a

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child date?

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Should our kids date while they're in high

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school and junior high?

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And is it just a cute little boyfriend

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and girlfriend?

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And our Christian schools often everybody pairs up

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and, oh my goodness, and the parents, like,

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this is so adorable, and aren't they so

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cute, this young couple?

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We decided not to go that route because

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over and over and over and over, and

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how many times can I say that, the

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end result seems to be not best.

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Youth groups are divided because a couple, they're

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all paired off and they're dating, dating, dating,

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dating, and the next thing you know, they

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are not, things aren't well, they're not happy,

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they end up breaking up, and now the

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youth group is divided because he doesn't talk

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to her and she doesn't talk to him

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and her friends don't like his friends.

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We just thought, this is not best.

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So the end result of that said, is

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our goal that our teens enjoy dating and

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relationships at a time when their hormones are

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all over the place, when they lack the

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wisdom frequently to make wise choices in male

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-female relationships?

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Well, even wise choices about life because they're

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always concerned about what the other person thinks.

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Yeah, and so we just decided not to

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do that.

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So our children, we want them to be

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friends with everybody.

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And here's, this is not the entire point,

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but I thought of that verse today because

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Solomon is saying right here, listen, when it

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comes to sin, you need wisdom, and when

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it comes to sin, what you need is

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you need to be aware that the lies

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are easy to believe, and when it comes

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to sin, it's helpful to carefully consider the

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ending of the matter.

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Where will this lead me?

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Like take the issue of adultery that he's

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discussing here.

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If you're listening to us, and adultery is

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something that you're involved in or considering getting

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involved in, it would be absolutely right for

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you to be aware of the fact, number

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one, you're believing lies, and number two, the

548
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end result is gonna be far more painful

549
00:17:21,460 --> 00:17:22,920
than you thought it would be, and that

550
00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:24,520
is the whole point always with sin.

551
00:17:24,640 --> 00:17:26,079
We sin when we believe a lie.

552
00:17:26,220 --> 00:17:28,680
I can handle this, I deserve this, I'm

553
00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:31,000
gonna be okay, everybody else is doing it,

554
00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:32,540
the culture we're in sees nothing wrong with

555
00:17:32,540 --> 00:17:33,580
this, the church is stupid.

556
00:17:34,040 --> 00:17:36,200
Think whatever lie you wanna think, but the

557
00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:37,720
fact of the matter is, you better think

558
00:17:37,720 --> 00:17:39,880
through the fact that I am believing a

559
00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:42,060
lie, and the danger here is, and Solomon's

560
00:17:42,060 --> 00:17:44,240
making this point, the end result is going

561
00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:46,080
to be painful, and it always is.

562
00:17:46,100 --> 00:17:47,440
One of the sad things is that it's

563
00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:49,500
always more painful than we realize.

564
00:17:49,820 --> 00:17:52,760
You know, adulterous, you know, an affair, alcohol,

565
00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:56,160
getting involved in drugs, the end result of

566
00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:59,100
those things have so much pain and sorrow

567
00:17:59,100 --> 00:18:02,740
and agony and tragedy, of families that are

568
00:18:02,740 --> 00:18:06,360
damaged, relationships that are hurt, reputations that are

569
00:18:06,360 --> 00:18:08,440
tarnished, the list just goes on and on

570
00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:08,760
and on.

571
00:18:08,960 --> 00:18:10,960
Right, I was just thinking a more of

572
00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:12,260
a parenting illustration.

573
00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:15,800
I heard a testimony recently about a young

574
00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:19,400
woman who was raised in a church going

575
00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:19,900
home.

576
00:18:20,380 --> 00:18:22,400
Both of her parents had accepted the Lord

577
00:18:22,400 --> 00:18:25,200
as their savior as young people, but as

578
00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:27,260
they went through college and they got married,

579
00:18:27,300 --> 00:18:30,100
they decided, you know, I don't want to

580
00:18:30,100 --> 00:18:34,140
raise our family quite as conservatively as we

581
00:18:34,140 --> 00:18:34,620
were raised.

582
00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:37,300
Now, David and I can totally understand this.

583
00:18:37,700 --> 00:18:40,820
We are not quite as conservative as our

584
00:18:40,820 --> 00:18:41,660
parents had raised us.

585
00:18:41,660 --> 00:18:42,340
At least in some applications.

586
00:18:42,380 --> 00:18:44,640
In some applications, and we would say more

587
00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:48,880
practical ways, but as far as our doctrine,

588
00:18:49,180 --> 00:18:51,420
our theology, what we believe about the Bible,

589
00:18:51,540 --> 00:18:53,780
that is absolutely the same.

590
00:18:54,220 --> 00:18:56,120
So, but her parents had decided, you know,

591
00:18:56,120 --> 00:18:58,440
we don't need to be quite that conservative.

592
00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:02,700
We're going to make church not quite that

593
00:19:02,700 --> 00:19:05,220
priority, and we're also gonna go to a

594
00:19:05,220 --> 00:19:07,960
different denomination where we can just be a

595
00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:08,740
little more free.

596
00:19:09,120 --> 00:19:12,000
But what their parents, her parents did not

597
00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:13,960
track to the end, and what we're trying

598
00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:16,860
to tell to you is whenever you consider

599
00:19:16,860 --> 00:19:19,480
a decision in life, it may not look

600
00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:20,040
that simple.

601
00:19:20,540 --> 00:19:23,660
These parents were considering going to church, just

602
00:19:23,660 --> 00:19:25,480
not the same church they had been brought

603
00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:28,000
up in, or the same denomination, and so

604
00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:30,540
it didn't look simple at all, but they

605
00:19:30,540 --> 00:19:31,960
didn't track it all the way to the

606
00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:34,560
end because this young lady and her brother

607
00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:36,400
were brought up in a church that did

608
00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:38,100
not preach the gospel.

609
00:19:38,820 --> 00:19:42,400
And so it was really of the Lord

610
00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:44,680
and the precious Holy Spirit working in her

611
00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:47,700
life that as a young wife who actually,

612
00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:49,840
her and her husband were starting to have

613
00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:52,760
trouble in their marriage, she thought, oh my

614
00:19:52,760 --> 00:19:54,340
goodness, I need to get to church.

615
00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:55,500
I need to get to God.

616
00:19:55,860 --> 00:19:57,920
That's the only thing that's gonna save this,

617
00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:00,940
and she started going to a gospel-preaching

618
00:20:00,940 --> 00:20:03,120
church, and praise the Lord, was saved.

619
00:20:03,420 --> 00:20:07,020
But her parents, in that decision of, you

620
00:20:07,020 --> 00:20:08,920
know what, we don't need to go to

621
00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:11,600
a doctrinally conservative church that preaches the word

622
00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:13,280
of God, that will preach the gospel to

623
00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,540
our family, and them not even sharing the

624
00:20:15,540 --> 00:20:16,560
gospel with their children.

625
00:20:17,060 --> 00:20:20,260
Who knows, who knows what could have happened

626
00:20:20,260 --> 00:20:22,920
had the Lord not been gracious and merciful

627
00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:24,720
in that young lady's life and said, you

628
00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:26,440
know what, I'm gonna bring you to myself

629
00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:29,100
anyway, even though your parents messed up in

630
00:20:29,100 --> 00:20:29,620
this decision.

631
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:31,800
That's quite a story, and what a lesson

632
00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:32,120
for us.

633
00:20:32,140 --> 00:20:34,300
Moms and dads, listen, listen, listen, listen.

634
00:20:34,820 --> 00:20:37,620
Either we train our children to know God

635
00:20:37,620 --> 00:20:39,780
and to have wisdom and to walk with

636
00:20:39,780 --> 00:20:42,560
God, either we make the hard decisions at

637
00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,340
times to say, no, this is right, and

638
00:20:44,340 --> 00:20:45,040
we're gonna do it.

639
00:20:45,540 --> 00:20:48,160
Either we do that, or sin entices our

640
00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,760
children in a direction that will damage them,

641
00:20:50,980 --> 00:20:53,940
hurt them, and potentially even destroy them for

642
00:20:53,940 --> 00:20:54,300
eternity.

643
00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,140
And so here's what Solomon's talking about.

644
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,300
We have to consider the end of any

645
00:20:58,300 --> 00:20:58,620
matter.

646
00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,320
And there's at least two other things he

647
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:01,560
says, I think, in this chapter that we

648
00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:03,000
ought to mention here before we close today.

649
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:05,060
And the first one is simply this.

650
00:21:05,460 --> 00:21:07,660
We should take steps to protect ourselves from

651
00:21:07,660 --> 00:21:09,500
the deadly effects of sin, and we just

652
00:21:09,500 --> 00:21:09,940
have to.

653
00:21:10,340 --> 00:21:11,260
Read verse eight for us.

654
00:21:11,540 --> 00:21:13,580
Think through, in light of what we're talking

655
00:21:13,580 --> 00:21:15,600
here, sin is deadly, sin damages us, we

656
00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:17,940
need wisdom, we've gotta stay away from the

657
00:21:17,940 --> 00:21:20,080
lies, we've gotta wisely consider the end of

658
00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:20,460
the matter.

659
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:22,920
So listen to this, how simply he applies

660
00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:23,820
this here in verse eight.

661
00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:26,940
Remove thy way far from her, and come

662
00:21:26,940 --> 00:21:28,820
not nigh the door of her house.

663
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:30,200
And then read verse 15 in light of

664
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:30,600
that as well.

665
00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:33,760
This 15 says, drink waters out of thine

666
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:36,580
own cistern, and running waters out of thine

667
00:21:36,580 --> 00:21:37,580
own well.

668
00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:39,540
Putting verse eight and verse 15 together, I

669
00:21:39,540 --> 00:21:41,180
came up with two thoughts here that can

670
00:21:41,180 --> 00:21:43,260
protect us from the deadly effects of sin.

671
00:21:43,860 --> 00:21:45,120
And the first one is this, get as

672
00:21:45,120 --> 00:21:46,080
far away as possible.

673
00:21:46,980 --> 00:21:49,880
Stay as far away as possible from sin.

674
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:53,060
Don't let it damage you, don't get close

675
00:21:53,060 --> 00:21:55,680
to it, don't play around with it, don't

676
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:58,180
spend time seeing, if you know, can I

677
00:21:58,180 --> 00:21:58,940
handle this?

678
00:21:59,060 --> 00:22:00,480
Will this be the big deal I've heard

679
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:01,060
that it is?

680
00:22:01,140 --> 00:22:03,360
He says right here, remove thy way far

681
00:22:03,360 --> 00:22:04,220
from her.

682
00:22:04,460 --> 00:22:06,000
And the point there is get as far

683
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:07,300
away from sin as possible.

684
00:22:07,360 --> 00:22:08,480
And that's a good lesson for all of

685
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:08,620
us.

686
00:22:08,620 --> 00:22:10,700
It is, it absolutely is.

687
00:22:10,780 --> 00:22:13,080
Whether it be a friendship that is damaging

688
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:16,380
you, maybe sometimes you're just like, oh, this

689
00:22:16,380 --> 00:22:17,900
young mom in the church, she seems to

690
00:22:17,900 --> 00:22:20,440
understand everything that I'm going through, and we

691
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,200
can get together and share, share, share.

692
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,680
But when you come away from having a

693
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,860
little outing with her or spending time talking

694
00:22:27,860 --> 00:22:29,560
to her on the phone or even texting,

695
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,820
you feel more maybe discouraged in your spirit

696
00:22:33,820 --> 00:22:37,120
than you feel encouraged because you're only sharing

697
00:22:37,120 --> 00:22:38,820
what's bad about your life.

698
00:22:39,140 --> 00:22:41,240
And oh, isn't this just terrible being a

699
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,480
mom of young children because it's so busy

700
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,360
and I never get to do anything or

701
00:22:45,360 --> 00:22:46,020
go anywhere.

702
00:22:46,220 --> 00:22:48,940
If you're feeling more discouraged, maybe you need

703
00:22:48,940 --> 00:22:50,180
to back off from that friendship.

704
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,460
Or maybe it's a television show that you're

705
00:22:52,460 --> 00:22:55,260
watching, maybe you're streaming something from Netflix or

706
00:22:55,260 --> 00:22:57,700
whatever, and you're just like, I love this

707
00:22:57,700 --> 00:22:58,920
show, I love this show, I love the

708
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,900
show, but you're finding yourself thinking about things

709
00:23:01,900 --> 00:23:03,240
you should not be thinking about.

710
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,220
Or maybe words are popping into your head

711
00:23:05,220 --> 00:23:06,920
that you would never dream of saying out

712
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:08,120
loud or whatever.

713
00:23:08,820 --> 00:23:11,420
Just remember, you need to remove yourself far

714
00:23:11,420 --> 00:23:12,520
from that.

715
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:14,960
Absolutely, and how, I mean, so many ways

716
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:15,580
that can apply.

717
00:23:16,020 --> 00:23:17,660
It's true that we just have to be

718
00:23:17,660 --> 00:23:20,100
careful about entertainment, about Hollywood, about movies.

719
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:22,140
We have to be careful about friendships.

720
00:23:22,700 --> 00:23:23,800
I mean, the list just goes on and

721
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:23,960
on.

722
00:23:24,060 --> 00:23:26,020
And moms and dads, it is always a

723
00:23:26,020 --> 00:23:27,980
good thing for us to model this, we

724
00:23:27,980 --> 00:23:29,380
stay away, and we don't need to be

725
00:23:29,380 --> 00:23:30,300
legalistic about it.

726
00:23:30,340 --> 00:23:32,000
There's no reason to be legalistic.

727
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,940
I'm not more spiritual because I don't do

728
00:23:34,940 --> 00:23:35,360
anything.

729
00:23:35,660 --> 00:23:36,540
That's not the whole point.

730
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:39,200
We can enjoy life, there's a ton, but

731
00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:41,480
sin will always hurt us, so we need

732
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:42,300
to stay away from it.

733
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,140
Remove thy way far from her.

734
00:23:44,740 --> 00:23:46,740
And then he says there, the point of

735
00:23:46,740 --> 00:23:48,440
that, drink waters out of thine own cistern

736
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,020
and running waters out of thine own well,

737
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:51,800
the way I took that is he's just

738
00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,420
saying to his son, continually, over again, over

739
00:23:54,420 --> 00:23:56,220
and over and over and over and over

740
00:23:56,220 --> 00:23:58,300
again, choose that which is right.

741
00:23:58,460 --> 00:24:00,060
Always turn to that which is right.

742
00:24:00,060 --> 00:24:02,140
If you're not sure that it's right, run

743
00:24:02,140 --> 00:24:02,800
away from it.

744
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:04,860
And if you know that it's right, choose

745
00:24:04,860 --> 00:24:05,260
it.

746
00:24:05,340 --> 00:24:07,600
Just always say, this is what's right, I'm

747
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:08,000
gonna do it.

748
00:24:08,140 --> 00:24:10,600
I'm always so proud of our children when

749
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:11,900
we've seen them make that decision.

750
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,560
And even recently, one of our children, there

751
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:15,960
was a story that came up in which

752
00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:18,360
they were asked about something, and the answer

753
00:24:18,360 --> 00:24:19,940
was, you know what, I'm not gonna do

754
00:24:19,940 --> 00:24:20,160
that.

755
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,020
And it just made me as a dad

756
00:24:22,020 --> 00:24:24,160
so proud that I have a child who

757
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,940
thought something through, who could have made a

758
00:24:27,940 --> 00:24:31,540
small decision, just a small experience, but said,

759
00:24:31,620 --> 00:24:34,020
no, I've thought it through, I've considered it,

760
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,100
I'm going to choose what I know absolutely

761
00:24:36,100 --> 00:24:38,000
to be best, and what I believe was

762
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:39,280
not just best, but also right.

763
00:24:39,460 --> 00:24:40,260
And so I just love that.

764
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:41,620
Moms and dads, that's the goal we have

765
00:24:41,620 --> 00:24:43,220
for our children, and for our own lives.

766
00:24:43,300 --> 00:24:44,200
That's not just for our children.

767
00:24:44,660 --> 00:24:46,380
Every dad listening to me, dad, you need

768
00:24:46,380 --> 00:24:48,300
wisdom so that you can stay away from

769
00:24:48,300 --> 00:24:50,340
sin, so that you can understand this will

770
00:24:50,340 --> 00:24:52,180
hurt me down the road, hurt my marriage

771
00:24:52,180 --> 00:24:54,860
down the road, damage my family down the

772
00:24:54,860 --> 00:24:56,740
road, and it just matters.

773
00:24:56,740 --> 00:24:58,860
So Solomon, in this whole chapter is reminding

774
00:24:58,860 --> 00:25:01,720
us of the devastating effects of sin, and

775
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:02,940
that there's a better way to live.

776
00:25:03,120 --> 00:25:07,380
Wisdom, understanding, knowledge, discretion, righteousness, that's a better

777
00:25:07,380 --> 00:25:07,800
way to live.

778
00:25:07,940 --> 00:25:09,920
Yes, and I was just thinking a different

779
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:12,060
perspective on verse 15, where it talks about

780
00:25:12,060 --> 00:25:12,760
running waters.

781
00:25:13,220 --> 00:25:15,580
The word of God refers to itself as

782
00:25:15,580 --> 00:25:17,800
living water, as the washing of the water

783
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,360
of the word, and how that we need

784
00:25:20,360 --> 00:25:22,480
to get our wisdom, our truth from the

785
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:22,900
word of God.

786
00:25:23,020 --> 00:25:26,180
So constantly running back to it so that

787
00:25:26,180 --> 00:25:28,220
you can spot those lies that are coming

788
00:25:28,220 --> 00:25:28,600
your way.

789
00:25:28,820 --> 00:25:29,860
And we have time just for this last

790
00:25:29,860 --> 00:25:30,320
thought here.

791
00:25:30,780 --> 00:25:33,160
The chapter closes with what I call the

792
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:36,700
God factor, and this always, always remember the

793
00:25:36,700 --> 00:25:37,200
God factor.

794
00:25:37,300 --> 00:25:38,640
Read for us verse 21.

795
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:40,940
For the ways of man are before the

796
00:25:40,940 --> 00:25:43,460
eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all

797
00:25:43,460 --> 00:25:44,520
his goings.

798
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:45,960
That's a little bit of a scary verse.

799
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:47,540
It is, read that one more time, just

800
00:25:47,540 --> 00:25:47,900
think of that.

801
00:25:47,900 --> 00:25:48,780
But also comforting.

802
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,180
For the ways of man are before the

803
00:25:51,180 --> 00:25:53,580
eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all

804
00:25:53,580 --> 00:25:54,820
his goings.

805
00:25:54,820 --> 00:25:56,980
Think about that, God knows the way.

806
00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:59,080
He knows the way we ought to go.

807
00:25:59,420 --> 00:26:00,900
He knows the ways that are wrong.

808
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,200
He knows the ways that are a problem.

809
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:07,020
And he ponders, he's aware of everything happening

810
00:26:07,020 --> 00:26:07,780
in my life.

811
00:26:08,060 --> 00:26:09,540
And the good news there is that when

812
00:26:09,540 --> 00:26:12,060
the Lord sees us making wrong choices, he

813
00:26:12,060 --> 00:26:13,900
does come after us.

814
00:26:14,100 --> 00:26:16,380
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me.

815
00:26:16,700 --> 00:26:18,500
The Lord uses his word, the Lord will

816
00:26:18,500 --> 00:26:20,320
use his sermon, the Lord will use the

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Holy Spirit, his spirit to speak to us.

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Just continually, continually he's trying to get our

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attention, to direct our steps, to help us,

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to lead us, to guide us.

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And so the reminder here is that God

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knows.

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And the reminder is that God sees.

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I have as a memory verse, 2 Chronicles

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16, nine.

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For the eyes of the Lord run to

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and fro throughout the whole earth to show

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himself strong in behalf of those whose heart

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is perfect toward him.

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So God sees everything.

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And the fact of the matter is, friends,

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let's not forget that God will see to

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it that we reap what we sow.

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He always does, that's his law.

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That for whatsoever man soweth, that shall he

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also reap.

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That's the law of God, that's the plan

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of God.

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And life will see to it that that

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happens, it always does.

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We just always, what we plant in our

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life comes up.

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And so here's a chapter, Proverbs chapter five,

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reminding us that you know what?

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Wisdom is better than sin.

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Doing right and living righteously is better than

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doing wrong and living unrighteously.

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And what great lessons for us.

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Anything you'd add there before we sign off

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today?

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I don't think so.

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I think we have gone through chapter five

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a couple of times and we have gleaned

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so much from it.

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So you can tell there's a lot in

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the book of Proverbs.

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Absolutely.

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Well, join us next week.

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We're looking for Proverbs chapter six.

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And it's gonna be a great chapter.

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It's also loaded with truth about this immorality

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issue, but Solomon in the first part of

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the chapter just really jumps in and deals

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with a lot of matters that we can't

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wait to share with you.

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Hope you have a great week ahead.

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Thank you for listening here at Keeping It

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Young podcast.

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If we can help you reach out to

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us.

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In the meantime, make sure this week that

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you serve the Lord with gladness.

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