Life and Family Lessons In Proverbs | Proverbs 6

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Hello and welcome to Keeping a Young Podcast,

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conversations about marriage, family, and ministry life.

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I'm Dave.

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And I'm Bethlie.

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And we are the Youngs.

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We're so glad you've joined us again

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as we're continuing in the book of Proverbs.

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Hope all is well in your life

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and I hope you're having a great week wherever you are.

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And we are so thankful that we can join you today.

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Hope you enjoyed Proverbs chapter five last week.

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I felt like I learned so much from Proverbs five.

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It was just, kept speaking to my heart

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in new ways and different ways.

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I'm enjoying actually for you

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that would want more information.

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I'm enjoying reading Matthew Henry's commentaries

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as I'm working through Proverbs with this study

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because he's just very practical

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and just applies things in a unique way.

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I'm really, really, I recommend Matthew Henry too.

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He's an old writer.

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Right.

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But very good stuff.

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And he does it in so many ways.

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Yes, you can find all of his commentaries free

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if you download the Blue Letter Bible app.

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Or the e-sword.

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Yes, you can find all of his commentaries right on there.

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And he is, he's not a super easy read,

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but once you get the cadence of his writing style,

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then you will learn a lot.

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Yes, and so I recommend it.

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We've learned a lot.

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I have just really enjoyed going through there.

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Well, we're today heading into Proverbs chapter six.

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Anything we need to announce or talk through

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or remind folks of before we just jump in and get going?

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Well, Mother's Day is coming.

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That's right.

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So why do we need to remind people of that?

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Oh, because moms like to be celebrated.

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And what are you hoping will happen

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on your Mother's Day this year?

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Oh, the same thing that happens every year

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since we have moved to Florida.

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My wonderful husband, first of all,

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he usually takes me out ahead of time

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and we go to all of our local nurseries

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and I buy plants and flowers for my flower beds.

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So we just get a big old cart

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and we load it up with all the pretty flowers.

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And then he helps me plant them all,

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which is also a blessing.

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And he and the children help mulch it all.

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So that's a wonderful Mother's Day.

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And then on Mother's Day,

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he cooks me a wonderful, wonderful meal

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and I don't have to do anything.

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I don't have to prep it.

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I don't have to cook it and I don't have to clean it up.

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That's the plan and that's what we're gonna do.

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So I hope you're making plans that way as well.

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It is coming up, isn't it?

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Mother's Day is coming fast.

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And I really, I didn't wanna go into all of that.

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I just wanted to remind you all

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to be thinking about your mamas

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because all of you have one,

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whether she's in glory like mine is,

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or she's still here on this side of glory,

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just be thinking about her, being thankful for her.

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And then if she is still with you,

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then making sure that you let her know

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how thankful you are for her.

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Absolutely.

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Well, let's jump into Proverbs chapter six.

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It seems that Solomon is interrupting his teaching

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on immorality to discuss some other things here.

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Really?

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And so he's no doubt about it.

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Chapter five was the main focus was on,

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you know, immorality and adultery.

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Yes, well, several chapters in a row are,

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and it goes back to it in chapter seven.

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But in chapter six here,

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before he gets into the issue of adultery,

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he brings up at least two or three or four areas to his son.

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And they're very important to talk about.

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He challenges his son and I can't help but think,

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you know, okay, what Solomon is in his heart there?

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It may be that he's reminding his son

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that we are not the sum total of our actions,

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but that our life is the sum total of our entire being,

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our character, our integrity, our words,

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our lifestyle, our choices,

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just it's a whole bunch of things combined together.

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You can't just compartmentalize your sin and say,

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well, you know, I have this lustful part of my life

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or I have this lying part of my life.

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You are an entire being.

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And so whatever besetting sin you might say,

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well, that's just off in the corner

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and I can compartmentalize it.

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It actually is a representative,

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a testimony of your whole being

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that there is something lacking.

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And so what Solomon is gonna do here is in his teaching

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is he's letting us know what we can do.

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There's lessons here for us.

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We can learn them,

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but the whole point is that we can train them

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to our children, teach them to our children.

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And so let's get started in verses one through five

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and here is where it all begins in Proverbs chapter six.

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You wanna read those five for us?

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Yes.

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Chapter six, verse one says,

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my son, if thou be surety for thy friend,

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if thou hast stricken my hand with a stranger,

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thou art snared with the words of thy mouth.

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Thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.

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Do this now, my son, and deliver thyself

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when thou art coming to the hand of thy friend.

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Go humble thyself and make sure thy friend.

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Give not sleep to thine eyes nor slumber to thine eyelids.

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Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter

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and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.

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There's a ton of things in those five verses,

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but I summed it up in just this simple statement.

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Solomon challenges his son to be a man of character,

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just to have character in his life,

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to be honest, to be dependable,

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to be a man of his word, especially when,

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or maybe I should say even when,

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or especially when it is hard.

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And because what he's saying here

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is that his son has made some statements

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and now it's like, ooh, that was way over the top.

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Well, be a man of your word, stand by it.

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And what a lesson.

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All of us should be people of character

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and our word should be dependable when we speak.

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It should have meaning to it.

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People should know they can trust us

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and that what we say, we mean,

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what we say, we're gonna back up

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and we're gonna honor our word.

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It's all about having character

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and we've got to train that to our children.

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We do. What a lesson.

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And in this culture where it is the popular thing

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not to do the hard thing.

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You know, it is hard to get up every day and go to work.

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It is hard to keep house.

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It is hard to keep things up around your house,

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to work in your yard,

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or to work on things that break in your house.

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It is hard to make those phone calls.

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I know that many of our adult children,

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that's one of the things they'll complain about.

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They're like, oh, I have to call the insurance company

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or I have to call the doctor's office

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or I have to call this.

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And I know waiting on the phone for those things

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is just hard work and you just don't wanna do it,

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but it has to be done and praise the Lord,

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our adult children do it.

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They don't like it.

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None of us do, but it is so popular in our culture

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for people to be like, oh man, work was really hard today.

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I don't think I can do anything for the next two days.

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I just need to lay on the couch and watch Netflix.

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Don't train your children to be that way.

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Train your children to be children, adults of character.

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Absolutely.

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And you know, that is a lesson for us

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because we do live in the culture

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to where, that's so weird, but it is true

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that people just think this is so hard, I can't.

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And moms and dads, if we don't overcome that

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in our culture, in a sense, forgive this word,

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we can cripple our children for their whole life.

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Absolutely.

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Because there's no doubt about it, life has to be lived.

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Decisions have to be carried through.

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Work has to be accomplished.

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That's how God designed the world

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and that's how the world will work.

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It is not possible to spend one's life successfully

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just sitting on a couch watching Netflix.

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And the more we train our children to work hard,

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to have character, to be dependable, and to enjoy it,

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the more successful they're gonna be in life.

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And Beth and I, we've always made a point

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to try to get our children there.

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To where that, okay, here's a job to be done.

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There's nothing wrong with saying, you know what,

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I'm tired, I'm gonna take a day off.

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God rested on the seventh day, not because he was tired,

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but to set an example for us that we're limited.

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I love how that Psalms, the book of Psalms

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talks about God giving his beloved sleep.

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And sleep is from the Lord and sleep does a ton of things.

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We know scientifically and biologically

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how that it restores our mind.

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So the rest is appropriate.

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Yes, it heals your body.

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And sleep is appropriate.

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And God is reminding us there that we are limited.

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There's no doubt, we can't do everything.

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We do have to pace ourselves.

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But we do have to develop character.

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The generation we live in,

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the issue is not that they don't take time off.

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The issue is that it's almost impossible

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to find somebody to work.

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And I don't know if you've noticed or not, dear friends,

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but when you go to a store now, when you go to a restaurant,

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it is very difficult to find a waiter or a waitress

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who is all in, who is very diligent, just on.

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Or, and is enjoying their work at the same time.

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I know our charity, she's 15 years old.

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And one of the things that I love about our charity,

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she just has a great zest for life.

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And she loves life and she's pretty happy

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about it all the time.

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She's not perfect in that, you know, she has bad days.

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But one of the things that charity has embraced is,

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well, if the job has to be done, then we're gonna do it.

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We're gonna do it to the best of our ability

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and we're gonna enjoy it while we're doing it.

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Yes.

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So she will, she'll play music or she'll think to herself,

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okay, I want to read this book.

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So I'm gonna Zoom through all of these jobs

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so I can have some time to sit down and enjoy my book.

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Or she'll wanna talk while she's doing it.

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So we'll fold laundry together and she'll just talk up

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a storm and just enjoy her time.

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And I love that she has embraced that

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because work is something, character is something,

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she's gonna have to have the rest of her life.

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She's gonna have to show up and get the job done.

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And I love that she's just embracing it.

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Absolutely.

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And you know, there's a point of personality there.

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If you have a child that is, you know, by personality,

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more laid back and maybe even on the lazy side of things,

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then you have to work really hard.

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If you have a child who tends to speak but doesn't mean it,

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then you have to work at this.

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Solomon begins here by challenging his son

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to be a man of character.

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When you speak, mean it.

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And when you've given your word, follow through on it.

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And what great lessons for us.

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And so speak wisely and make that a major part of your life.

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So his first lessons, be a man of character.

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Right.

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Have you ever thought about that?

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Well, I think I already was spilling over

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into the next one so we can just announce that one.

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Verses six through 11 then, he's saying to his son,

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you have to be diligent and industrious.

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Yes.

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And we really need to read all those verses.

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So read verses six through 11 for us.

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Be diligent, be industrious.

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Listen to these verses.

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Go to the aunt thou sluggard,

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consider her ways and be wise,

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which having no guide, overseer or ruler,

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provideth her meat in the summer

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and gathereth her food in the harvest.

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How long wilt thou sleep, O sluggard?

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When wilt thou arise out of thy sleep?

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Yet a little sleep, a little slumber,

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a little folding of the hands to sleep.

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So shall thy poverty come as one that traveleth

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and thy want as an armed man.

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That's pretty powerful, isn't it?

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It is.

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And I have a smiley face right in my Bible over verse 11

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because we always have to giggle over.

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So shall thy poverty come as one that traveleth

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because we travel all the time in our ministry.

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And we're like, yep.

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That always makes us laugh.

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We're like, okay, might as well smile about that.

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Yes.

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Traveling is expensive.

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And I read in Matthew Henry's commentary,

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he said that Solomon condemns the slothful who do nothing.

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He also added to it.

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He also condemns the wicked who do damage.

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And right here in particular,

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he's condemning the slothful

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who just don't do anything at all.

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And what a reminder that we must learn again

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to work hard in our culture.

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I tell our children frequently

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that if you learn how to work hard,

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to be dependable, to be on, to get the job done,

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there's coming a day in our culture,

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if our culture continues the way it is,

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that you can pretty much name your salary.

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Yes.

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Because we hear so many times bosses who will say,

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I can't find workers.

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In my local town where we live,

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I was in one of the stores and one of the men said,

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I'm so sorry you've had to wait.

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He said, we just,

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we can't find people who are qualified to work.

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They can't pass a drug test.

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They can't pass, you know, the competency, you know, exam,

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but they just, we just can't find people that,

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and it wasn't really even a hard job.

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It's just, there was nobody to do the work.

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So Solomon is saying to his son, listen to me, son,

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in the midst of this perverted, messed up, godless world,

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here's what you've got to learn.

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You have got to learn to be diligent and industrious.

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And Beth and I have said this so many times,

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and we believe with all of our heart,

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we have to teach our children to work hard.

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Yes.

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And my goodness, let's talk about that

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because each of our, each of our kids learned to work hard.

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And we, because we emphasize that.

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Well, and you don't want to,

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there are so many parents today who don't want

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their children to have to do hard things.

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And so they'll hire someone to do the lawn.

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They might hire someone to come in a couple of days a month

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to clean the house.

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There is, I have no problem with you getting help

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if you have the money to do it.

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But if you have children,

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they also need to learn to do the hard thing.

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And keeping a house and a yard and all of those things,

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those are the hard things

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that they're gonna have to learn how to do.

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And if you just grumble about it or you keep them from it,

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you're not helping them develop character

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or industriousness.

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Yeah, I even had a dad say to me some months ago,

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there was a project that needed to be done at his house.

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And I said, well, you know, you got sons.

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And he said, well, you know, I hate to ask them to do it

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because they got basketball season right now.

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And I thought, no, wait a minute, wait a minute.

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Basketball season will not necessarily last very long.

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In fact, very few of our children will make a living

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or have a future in sports.

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In professional sports.

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But our children will always have a future in work.

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My dad is just a few years shy of 80.

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And one of the reasons my dad is healthy and well

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is because he works.

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And he came from a culture

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that where you had to work to eat,

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where you had to work to live.

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And we're no longer there,

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but it doesn't change the fact

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that work is absolutely essential

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to a successful and prosperous and godly life.

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Yes, and what an opportunity to teach your children

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that life does consist of,

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yep, I get up in the morning and I go to work.

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And when I come home, I still have some jobs to do.

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It's not just, oh, I clock out at five and I come home

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and I'm just on the couch

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and nothing needs to be done after that.

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So yes, your children may have a busy schedule with school

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and maybe sports and other things that they have to do,

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but make sure you're fitting in those jobs

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that they have to accomplish

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because they do live in your house

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and they do need to learn to work.

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So here's a couple of suggestions,

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Melton, I would offer in light of where Solomon is here.

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We had chores daily for our children.

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And daily chores are just the set in stone.

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We're gonna do them every day.

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This is just part of the routine.

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This is part of your life.

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It's like getting out of bed.

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It's like brushing your teeth.

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It's like eating.

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This is what we're gonna do every day.

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And in our family,

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not everybody would do it the way we did it,

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but in our family,

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our children clean the bathroom every day.

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Right, it's not a full scrubbing down

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of the bathroom every day.

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We did do that once a week,

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but our children would get us a fresh hand towel

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so that we're not using the same old one

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day after day after day.

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They would just wipe down the sink and mirror,

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make sure it looks good,

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see if there's anything that needs to be cleaned up

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and wiping out the toilet every day

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because there were so many of us in that house using it.

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So we cleaned the bathroom every day

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and we cleaned the kitchen.

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This was a rule in our house.

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We cleaned the kitchen immediately after every meal.

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Right.

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Which meant that when the meal is over

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and the conversations are ended and we're finished.

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Well, we're still conversing.

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We're just working as we're conversing.

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So we make it a family matter.

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Our children, it was a time to,

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we accomplished so many things at the same time.

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We were sharing, we were talking, we were laughing,

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we were building relationships,

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but we were working and that involved,

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you know, we're gonna wash the dishes,

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we're gonna dry them, we're gonna put them away,

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we're gonna sweep the floor,

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we're gonna remove the trash.

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Yes, we're gonna just take care of the kitchen.

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And how many mamas have to,

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you know, they go throughout their evening

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and then they come back to the kitchen

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and it's time to go to bed

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and oh, I still have to clean that up

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or I'll just wait for it in the morning.

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Now, you don't have to do it the way we did it.

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We're just saying these are some ideas

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to help your children just automatically know,

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okay, this is what needs to be done every day

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and it gives them a good work ethic.

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And what we discovered was that, you know,

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in my opinion, it's better to do it immediately

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than to let it build up and do it all later at one time.

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Yes.

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And first of all, it's easier to do it when,

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and it hasn't sat, you know, it hasn't sat there forever.

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And it's easier to just get it done and be finished with it

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so that you can walk into a clean kitchen.

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Things are put away, everything looks normal.

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And within literally, when a meal has finished in our home,

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within 30 minutes, a half an hour,

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everything is back to normal.

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Oh, usually not even that long.

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The meal, everything is cleaned up,

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everything is put away, the kitchen looks clean

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and we are ready to move on with our day.

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That was just a daily chore.

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We made that a priority.

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The other one was we vacuumed every day.

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And that became more of a priority

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for two reasons in our family.

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One is for 16 years, we lived in an RV,

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five children and me and Bethle in a 42 foot RV.

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And living in there, because it was such a tiny space,

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there was a greater accumulation of dirt

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in a specific location.

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And so we vacuumed that every day.

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And if necessarily, sometimes twice a day.

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Now we have a golden retriever

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and this was something that I was not necessarily

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ever thinking would happen in our family.

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My wife grew up with a dog that was indoor.

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It was a little dog, indoor.

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And I just never have had an indoor dog

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and never preferred that, never liked that.

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But my wife, growing up that way,

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we bought our last golden retriever.

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The thing was tiny and a puppy and wound up in the house.

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You know, it was kind of by default.

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She was scared.

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See, listen to that.

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And so here's the scared little dog,

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it's gotta come into the house.

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And now she is part of our family in the house.

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And she's a golden retriever.

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So the children vacuumed every single day.

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And we vacuumed her bed and we vacuumed,

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we even vacuumed her with a wand.

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We had to make her lay down.

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The rest of the family doesn't do that.

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David does that.

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And poor Payne, you should just see her.

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She sees that vacuum coming and she'll just lay down

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and look so resigned.

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Like, really, you're gonna vacuum me again?

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She looks so pitiful.

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But all we're doing there is it's just a job.

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And we're getting vacuuming the floors every day

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and being aware of cleaning things up was a job.

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So what Solomon is saying to his son here

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is something we can practice in real life with our children

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and it makes a difference.

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So I have chores daily.

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We even had work periodically.

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Listen, dad, if you're cutting trees and splitting wood,

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there's not a thing wrong with having your son helping,

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learning how to split wood, learning how to cut trees,

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learning how to pick up brush,

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or those things, when we're picking blueberries,

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remember blueberries, having the kids help.

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Or when you're working in the, whatever.

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If you are periodically having work that needs to be done,

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get the children helping you to do it.

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Yes, projects around the house.

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And of course, age appropriate.

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You probably, if you're repainting your kitchen,

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don't want your three-year-old to be painting your kitchen.

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But you can certainly get your junior high student

520
00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:51,460
or your high school student involved in that.

521
00:18:51,780 --> 00:18:53,760
And you should, because these are all things

522
00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:56,320
that they will need to be doing as they grow up.

523
00:18:56,500 --> 00:18:57,900
Absolutely, and the Bible says later here

524
00:18:57,900 --> 00:18:58,700
in the book of Proverbs,

525
00:18:59,300 --> 00:19:02,280
the desire accomplished is sweet to the soul.

526
00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:04,480
Yes, I was just thinking while you were talking

527
00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:06,360
about how we get the kitchen all cleaned up

528
00:19:06,360 --> 00:19:08,420
and it's all done, I was thinking,

529
00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:11,380
and then we light the candle and we turn out the lights

530
00:19:11,380 --> 00:19:13,800
and we leave the kitchen so that we can all go

531
00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:16,460
get ready for bed or just have some family time.

532
00:19:16,540 --> 00:19:18,320
But when we come back into the kitchen,

533
00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:20,840
anytime I walk back in just to get a drink or a snack

534
00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:22,260
or to get something for David,

535
00:19:22,420 --> 00:19:24,780
and I'm just like, oh, this kitchen looks so good.

536
00:19:25,380 --> 00:19:27,340
Yeah, so that desire accomplished is sweet.

537
00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:29,780
The Bible is absolutely accurate there.

538
00:19:30,120 --> 00:19:31,800
I would even say, I'd make this suggestion

539
00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:32,460
to you moms and dads.

540
00:19:32,460 --> 00:19:34,080
Beth and I would challenge you to get creative.

541
00:19:35,140 --> 00:19:36,680
One of the things we learned from her dad

542
00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:38,060
was no trash in the cars.

543
00:19:38,620 --> 00:19:39,120
Absolutely not.

544
00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:40,980
Her dad, the moment he pulled into the garage,

545
00:19:41,300 --> 00:19:44,040
the first thing you do, any trash gets removed

546
00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:45,600
and placed in the trash can in the garage.

547
00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:46,020
Yes.

548
00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:49,020
And there was never, ever trash in dad's car.

549
00:19:49,160 --> 00:19:49,440
No.

550
00:19:49,940 --> 00:19:51,000
And that's a little thing.

551
00:19:51,220 --> 00:19:51,520
Yes.

552
00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:53,220
But it teaches, number one,

553
00:19:53,300 --> 00:19:55,040
we're taking care of our possession.

554
00:19:55,580 --> 00:19:57,640
And number two, we're making it look good,

555
00:19:57,820 --> 00:19:59,480
vacuuming the car, washing the car,

556
00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:01,300
cleaning the house, doing the laundry,

557
00:20:01,300 --> 00:20:02,700
learning to make money.

558
00:20:02,820 --> 00:20:04,720
All of that is just get creative with your children

559
00:20:05,260 --> 00:20:06,040
and teach them.

560
00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:07,780
You're working, so teach them to work.

561
00:20:07,980 --> 00:20:08,180
Yes.

562
00:20:08,380 --> 00:20:12,080
And dad, listen, and I don't wanna get on a sidetrack here,

563
00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:13,880
but that in our culture,

564
00:20:14,140 --> 00:20:18,400
the average age now of video gamers is in the 30s.

565
00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:18,900
Oh my.

566
00:20:19,340 --> 00:20:22,920
And dad, that's not fair to your children

567
00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:26,280
that you waste four, five, six, seven hours a day

568
00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:27,200
on a video game.

569
00:20:28,020 --> 00:20:29,740
Video games aren't necessarily wrong,

570
00:20:29,740 --> 00:20:32,500
but they are addictive, they are distracting,

571
00:20:32,900 --> 00:20:36,760
and they accomplish nothing of lasting value.

572
00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:38,380
So it's a waste.

573
00:20:39,180 --> 00:20:40,960
And so don't let your son,

574
00:20:41,020 --> 00:20:43,180
don't let your son begin developing habits

575
00:20:43,180 --> 00:20:47,040
of hours of video games, hours and hours of video games.

576
00:20:47,500 --> 00:20:48,860
If your son needs something to do,

577
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:52,240
give him something to do that teaches a life lesson

578
00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:55,660
that prepares your sons and daughters for adulthood.

579
00:20:55,820 --> 00:20:57,700
That is so important.

580
00:20:57,760 --> 00:20:58,760
So get creative about it.

581
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,200
And then a couple other suggestions we have here.

582
00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:02,780
We had responsibilities.

583
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:03,900
What were some of the responsibilities

584
00:21:03,900 --> 00:21:05,720
that each of our children had?

585
00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:08,320
Well, they know that they just,

586
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:09,640
when they get out of bed in the morning,

587
00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:10,840
the bed needs to be made.

588
00:21:11,020 --> 00:21:13,460
That is something you will just have to remind them of.

589
00:21:13,500 --> 00:21:15,980
And sometimes they get a little older and they come home,

590
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:17,280
you know, from college or whatever,

591
00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:19,300
and they're thinking, I'm just home,

592
00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:20,500
I don't need to do anything.

593
00:21:20,500 --> 00:21:22,660
And you just remind them, nope, in this house,

594
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:24,760
you do make your bed, please make your bed.

595
00:21:25,190 --> 00:21:28,860
But clothing, they are not to just leave their clothing

596
00:21:28,860 --> 00:21:30,500
on the floor, they're not to leave

597
00:21:30,500 --> 00:21:31,660
their school books everywhere.

598
00:21:32,260 --> 00:21:33,960
If they have little projects they do,

599
00:21:34,260 --> 00:21:36,800
Charity does, she has many little art projects

600
00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:39,820
that she'll get out and do, but she is very good about,

601
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,440
you know, I don't leave this out.

602
00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,680
I just pack it all back up and put it back where it goes.

603
00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:46,060
And I know sometimes you think,

604
00:21:46,220 --> 00:21:48,320
oh, she's just gonna go back to it tomorrow.

605
00:21:48,540 --> 00:21:51,680
But it's just a nice thing to teach them.

606
00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:53,620
You know what, I have some responsibilities

607
00:21:53,620 --> 00:21:54,660
to this family.

608
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:56,260
I'm not the only one who lives here.

609
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:58,120
I have to clean up after myself.

610
00:21:58,560 --> 00:21:59,320
That sounds great.

611
00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:01,060
And then one more here, we have job training.

612
00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:03,120
And when Solomon is talking to his son here

613
00:22:03,120 --> 00:22:05,260
about being diligent, going to the aunt

614
00:22:05,260 --> 00:22:06,860
and considering her ways,

615
00:22:07,460 --> 00:22:09,200
one of the things we as moms and dads can do

616
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:10,340
is do job training.

617
00:22:10,500 --> 00:22:13,740
Cooking and cleaning and laundry require training.

618
00:22:14,580 --> 00:22:16,460
We should celebrate jobs well done

619
00:22:16,460 --> 00:22:17,760
and jobs that are finished.

620
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,700
And I know, I know moms and dads,

621
00:22:19,860 --> 00:22:22,460
sometimes as you're in those training years

622
00:22:22,460 --> 00:22:24,040
of this is how you fold the laundry,

623
00:22:24,180 --> 00:22:25,520
this is how you wash the dishes,

624
00:22:25,660 --> 00:22:27,000
this is how you sweep the floor,

625
00:22:27,360 --> 00:22:29,620
it is so much easier and so much faster

626
00:22:29,620 --> 00:22:30,760
just to do it yourself.

627
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:35,020
But those training years do pay off.

628
00:22:35,120 --> 00:22:36,660
I was thinking as we were referring

629
00:22:36,660 --> 00:22:39,780
to Proverbs six, verse six about going to the aunt,

630
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:42,020
that would be really nice if you could just say,

631
00:22:42,180 --> 00:22:43,860
hey, go out there and watch the aunts

632
00:22:43,860 --> 00:22:46,340
and you're gonna learn a lot about how to do life.

633
00:22:46,660 --> 00:22:49,260
Now they will learn that aunts are very diligent

634
00:22:49,260 --> 00:22:52,280
and they just do not stop until the job is done

635
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:54,240
and it seems like their job is never done.

636
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:58,100
But the aunts outside are not going to train your children

637
00:22:58,100 --> 00:22:59,580
how to do things in the house.

638
00:22:59,660 --> 00:23:00,700
That is up to you.

639
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:04,220
So take the extra time because it does pay off.

640
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:05,880
Yes, and we're gonna run out of time here,

641
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:07,840
but one of the things I was reminded of

642
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:08,780
as we're talking about this

643
00:23:08,780 --> 00:23:10,360
is that each of our children are unique.

644
00:23:11,140 --> 00:23:13,180
Bethlehe mentioned our Charity who is just

645
00:23:13,180 --> 00:23:15,040
happily, happily running, running, running,

646
00:23:15,100 --> 00:23:15,860
getting the job done.

647
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,020
Our son Joshua was more steady.

648
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,380
He was just the steady plotter, calm about it.

649
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,200
And so sometimes we have to slow Charity down.

650
00:23:24,340 --> 00:23:26,460
You know, don't go so fast that you don't do it well.

651
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,700
And with our Josh, we had to sometimes speed things up

652
00:23:29,700 --> 00:23:32,860
and he was unique and different than she was,

653
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:36,180
but each of our children had to learn to be diligent,

654
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,400
to be industrious, to follow through, to finish the job.

655
00:23:39,900 --> 00:23:41,360
What Solomon says to his son here

656
00:23:41,360 --> 00:23:45,720
is absolutely vitally important in the culture we live in.

657
00:23:45,900 --> 00:23:50,380
It is, and as I just said, it is so worth the training.

658
00:23:50,380 --> 00:23:54,240
I can absolutely say that every single one of our children

659
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,060
are hard workers and happy workers.

660
00:23:57,300 --> 00:24:01,360
They do what the Lord has given them to do happily.

661
00:24:01,780 --> 00:24:03,800
And sometimes they are tired

662
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:05,840
and sometimes they have to remind themselves,

663
00:24:05,980 --> 00:24:08,340
you know what, it's been a while, I need to take a break.

664
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:09,660
We were just talking to Matt and Kareth

665
00:24:10,220 --> 00:24:12,320
yesterday on the phone and they were saying,

666
00:24:12,460 --> 00:24:14,420
I don't remember the last time we had a day off.

667
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:15,860
So today's been a good day.

668
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:17,800
We took a day off, we needed some rest

669
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:19,420
and we do need that time,

670
00:24:19,420 --> 00:24:21,020
but they are all industrious.

671
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:22,320
And I just praise the Lord for that

672
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:24,820
because we didn't always know what to do,

673
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:26,240
but the Lord did help us.

674
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,660
And so train those babies to work hard.

675
00:24:28,820 --> 00:24:30,540
There's a couple other things here in Proverbs 6

676
00:24:30,540 --> 00:24:32,340
before we run out of time today.

677
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:35,300
Verses 12 through 15, Matthew Henry says

678
00:24:35,300 --> 00:24:37,640
that Solomon is challenging his son

679
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,940
to be aware of sorry people and just be aware of that.

680
00:24:41,020 --> 00:24:42,920
Read those just briefly to us, 12 through 15.

681
00:24:43,120 --> 00:24:44,780
A naughty person, a wicked man,

682
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:47,780
walketh with a froward mouth, that's a twisted mouth.

683
00:24:47,780 --> 00:24:50,800
He winketh with his eyes, he speaketh with his feet,

684
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,860
he teacheth with his fingers,

685
00:24:53,780 --> 00:24:55,280
frowardness is in his heart,

686
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:58,980
he deviseth mischief continually, he soweth discord.

687
00:24:59,300 --> 00:25:01,380
Therefore shall his calamity come suddenly,

688
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,080
suddenly shall he be broken without remedy.

689
00:25:04,340 --> 00:25:05,160
So think about this.

690
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,260
He says to his son, I want you to be a man of character.

691
00:25:08,020 --> 00:25:10,340
I want you to be diligent and industrious son.

692
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:12,920
And I want you to be aware of sorry people.

693
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:14,660
Remember when I said a moment ago

694
00:25:14,660 --> 00:25:17,600
was that Solomon condemns the slothful

695
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:18,320
who do nothing.

696
00:25:19,020 --> 00:25:21,940
Here he is condemning the man who does evil

697
00:25:21,940 --> 00:25:23,860
and tries to do as much as he can.

698
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:25,260
And we need to be aware of that.

699
00:25:25,340 --> 00:25:25,640
Absolutely.

700
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:27,140
And teach our children to be aware of that.

701
00:25:27,420 --> 00:25:29,060
There's one other thing he says here in the text

702
00:25:29,060 --> 00:25:30,420
before we run out of time today.

703
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:33,780
And it's the verses that all of us probably know quite well.

704
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,560
Solomon reminds his son to be aware

705
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,220
of that thing that God hates.

706
00:25:40,500 --> 00:25:42,780
And he says here, there are six things God hates

707
00:25:42,780 --> 00:25:45,120
and seven, the seventh one is an abomination.

708
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,700
So let's just read this list and we'll be out of time

709
00:25:47,700 --> 00:25:48,620
and we'll close with this.

710
00:25:49,900 --> 00:25:51,280
These six things doth the Lord hate,

711
00:25:51,340 --> 00:25:53,940
yea seven are an abomination unto him,

712
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,620
a proud look, a lying tongue and hands

713
00:25:56,620 --> 00:26:00,180
that shed innocent blood and heart that deviseth

714
00:26:00,180 --> 00:26:02,600
wicked imaginations, feet that be swift

715
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:05,380
in running to mischief, a false witness

716
00:26:05,380 --> 00:26:08,760
that speaketh lies and he that soweth discord

717
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:09,760
among the brethren.

718
00:26:09,940 --> 00:26:10,640
Aren't those an interesting,

719
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:11,920
that's just such an interesting list.

720
00:26:12,060 --> 00:26:14,240
Such an interesting thing to think through there.

721
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:15,320
It's very weighty.

722
00:26:15,420 --> 00:26:15,820
It is.

723
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,520
Solomon is reminding his son to be a man of character.

724
00:26:18,620 --> 00:26:19,160
Remember that?

725
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:21,740
He starts here by saying, son, you need to be honest

726
00:26:21,740 --> 00:26:24,440
and dependable, you need to be a man of your word,

727
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,100
how you treat others matters.

728
00:26:26,660 --> 00:26:29,760
And it does seem that he's concluding this little section

729
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:30,900
with a reminder of that.

730
00:26:31,420 --> 00:26:34,600
This list is about the sins against others,

731
00:26:34,860 --> 00:26:36,680
arrogance and how you treat others,

732
00:26:36,820 --> 00:26:39,360
treating others arrogantly, that proud look

733
00:26:39,360 --> 00:26:42,560
of condescension and condemnation

734
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:46,280
and looking down on others and just mistreating them.

735
00:26:46,820 --> 00:26:48,120
That's sinful to God.

736
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:48,660
Yes.

737
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:50,920
And he mentions lying several times in the passage,

738
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:52,920
how we, you know, he mentions it,

739
00:26:53,020 --> 00:26:55,600
that we're to be honest, we're not to be a false witness,

740
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,880
we're not to treat others inappropriately in that way

741
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,660
and we're not to be destructive of the innocent

742
00:27:01,660 --> 00:27:03,440
or of unity and peace.

743
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,940
Nothing we should do should damage other people around us

744
00:27:06,940 --> 00:27:10,080
and when our lives damage other people,

745
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,180
whether it's our pride or our dishonesty,

746
00:27:13,740 --> 00:27:16,200
whatever this is, is sowing discord among the brethren,

747
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:20,340
when we damage other people, we are displeasing almighty God

748
00:27:20,340 --> 00:27:22,720
and literally are under the judgment of God.

749
00:27:22,780 --> 00:27:23,840
God hates these things.

750
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:24,260
Yes.

751
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:25,720
So it matters how we treat each other.

752
00:27:25,780 --> 00:27:28,540
What a lesson for a family that we get along.

753
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:30,620
What a lesson for how we respond to each other

754
00:27:30,620 --> 00:27:31,180
in the church.

755
00:27:31,360 --> 00:27:31,760
Yes.

756
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:33,600
We're to be loving, we're to be gentle.

757
00:27:34,020 --> 00:27:36,920
This list is the exact opposite of the fruits of the spirit

758
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,020
of Galatians chapter, what is it?

759
00:27:39,020 --> 00:27:39,800
Galatians chapter five.

760
00:27:40,580 --> 00:27:43,160
They're different, it matters how we treat others

761
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:47,040
and Solomon reminds his son here, God hates these things.

762
00:27:47,220 --> 00:27:48,160
Don't let these in your life.

763
00:27:48,260 --> 00:27:50,380
Don't be dishonest, don't be arrogant,

764
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,420
don't be condescending, don't bear false witness

765
00:27:53,420 --> 00:27:56,520
against somebody else and certainly don't sow discord

766
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,340
among brethren, don't try to damage good relationships

767
00:27:59,340 --> 00:28:02,640
because of your foolishness and what a powerful way to end.

768
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:03,880
So we are out of time.

769
00:28:04,020 --> 00:28:07,620
I feel like we could do a whole episode on those verses.

770
00:28:07,620 --> 00:28:09,440
Maybe we should next time.

771
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,300
I think you should write that and we'll do it.

772
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:16,140
I think I just got handed the baton of writing the notes.

773
00:28:16,380 --> 00:28:17,280
Isn't this exciting?

774
00:28:17,860 --> 00:28:19,760
So ladies and gentlemen, tune in next time

775
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:21,060
and we'll see where we go with that.

776
00:28:21,220 --> 00:28:22,620
Thank you so much for joining us today.

777
00:28:22,700 --> 00:28:23,400
We are out of time.

778
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:25,960
It's always an honor to share with you the word of God

779
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:30,420
and practical wisdom about life and family and ministry.

780
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:32,180
We're honored you would let us do that.

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We hope you have a great week.

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Thanks for listening to Keeping It Young podcast

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and whatever you do this week,

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make sure that you serve the Lord with gladness.

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