Thoughts for Singles about Finding a Spouse Part 3

Part 3:

3.  Be wise in your approach

1. Questions that should be asked before a relationship becomes serious
   1. Not all of these are deal breakers, but they need wise examination and counsel
   2. Your spiritual testimony
      1. No Unequal yoke with someone who is not a believer
   3. Virginity
   4. Porn
   5. Drugs/alcohol
   6. Debt
2. Your friends saw the red flags. Your family voiced their concerns. But you were so caught up in the excitement of new love that you missed all the warning signs. Now you’re stuck in a relationship that’s making you absolutely miserable.
3. Why does this happen? According to researchers at University College London, “feelings of love lead to a suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought.” In other words, love can not only make you blind, but stupid.
4. So, how can you keep your brain switched on while dating and dodge potential bullets in the realm of romance? According to relationship expert Dr. John Van Epp, author of How to Avoid Falling in Love With a Jerk, it’s about using both your head and your heart by taking the time to understand your partner’s F.A.C.E.S.
   1. There are areas you should examine
      1. Family Dynamics and Background
      2. Attitudes and Actions of a Mature Conscience
      3. Compatibility Potential
      4. Examples of Previous Friendship or Relationship Patterns
      5. Skills for Relationships